Clean a mind?

You know how we see others with 'problems' or things we think they're doing 'wrong' do we ever stop to think that they are already aware? There's some belief that 'if I told them, they would see and change and fix... maybe these people actually already know but they can't do anything about it or it's too hard. You know all those times you intended to clean a room or house or kitchen... if that's hard to clean a room when you should, how hard is to clean a mind?

Will power always blowing up?

Pressure valve tactics mind organiser

The plan of the ideal, then the backup plan that allows the pressure to be released without the plan blowing up.
Have as many backup plans as you want.... each one releases more pressure until It's barely different from the regular instinct

Yes is best?

It's easy to like someone who always says yes... It's hard to respect someone who always says yes.

TYOA Parkinson's law

Take your own advice reset. I need to be aware of Parkinson's law more this will help me achieve a lot in a short amount of time as opposed to having full days and not utilising them very well at all Parkinson's law tells us tasks swell in priority as it gets closer to it's deadline so because you can always do it tomorrow is never any urgency to do it today and therefore even if you did she hurts you achieved it quite slowly and it would take a long time to get a big list of things done so instead of writing off a day at 3:04 o'clock you need to look at things in our forms chunks of hours what can I achieve in this hour what can I finish in this hour or the next 2 hours and productivity in theory should go through the roof

TYOA day 3

Food 7/10 not bad,  could have been better
Exercise 1/10 in a car all day makes that score terrible...

Notes...  Be more prepared with better food...  Have tea or water if still hungry.

HIT training tomorrow before 11am

TYOA day 2

Feeling good,  fairly motivated,  1 km walk,  lots of water,  brown rice,  vegetables and nuts so far.

Last night I weighed myself at 99kgs I'll keep weighing to see how I'm going and to keep me accountable.  80kgs really suits me,  sometimes people say I look under weight at that level,  but 85 is the ideal...  Hell,  make it 84 so I have 15kgs to lose...  I've done it before,  I'll do it again.  Last time I became a vegetarian for 6 months and it worked amazingly well,  so I'm concious to not eat much meat and restrict factory produced food (obviously excluding washing and packing etc)

Been going well throughout the day...  Nearly had seconds at dinner,  served it up and put it back,  had water instead! Feeling proud...  Knowing I was going to post on this blog helped!

Update...  And after posting that,  my old man 'makes' me eat more...  It's hard to say no when food is shoved in your face however I have to learn how to say no...

The Nawing in my Head

Unhappiness comes from comparison of others. When you are compared to others you will lose,  and so will they,  there's always someone with a skill that's better than yours and you'll always have a skill that's better than there's. We just have to be the best person we can be and believe and hope that's enough for ourselves and others.

If disclosure beings connection,  then creating things you wouldn't disclose to others with someone must bring an even deeper connection.

Secrets withheld from one another create isolation.

A secret world that's a bit of a fantasy can be exciting,  personal and connecting...  But when you watch someone else do that it brings distance and loneliness.

All any of us want is to give and receive love unconditionally and feel safe to do so.

Take Your Own Advice (TYOA 1)

It's time to take my own advice,  I want and need to become more healthy,  lose weight and gain strength and fitness.  I do not lack in knowledge,  I do not lack in technique,  hell I do not even lack in experience,  I lack in action,  I lack in dedication and consistency.

So I am keeping myself accountable by posting here and being honest with myself,  I'm the only one who loses by being dishonest with myself.

I choose to take this path for several main reasons.
I value my mind more than my body,  but my mind relies on my health,  state of mind which is tied to my body,  you are what you eat,  exercise helps the mind be clear and sharp!
I value my girlfriend, Tess,  she deserves a healthy and head strong man who happens to also have a body which she is proud of.  I choose to do this because she accepts me where I'm at,  and that inspires me to be better.

I need to post my failures and my successes as they happen,  get up and do something about my situations,  be proud of my efforts and even if I stumble,  get back up and keep going.

I have 1 year till my partners major milestone birthday - I want to lose 20kg or if not losing that much,  at least converting to tone and muscle.

I think in 6 months I'll do really well if I keep the path.  In future posts I'll let you know what I'm up to and how I'm doing it...

To start I've done a 1.2km walk and I've eaten rice,  vegetables,  soy sauce cottage cheese and nuts with ginger tea and honey. Over ate a little bit,  need to serve in smaller bowls.  Drink water more if hungry.

I enjoyed my walk while watching 30 rock.

I finished brain training but need to do more HIT training each day,  especially seems it's short

Until next time!

JUST DO IT!

hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.

William Hutchison Murray

A less aggressive,  more elegant way to say what Shia LaBeouf said.

Build Mental Strength

Mentally strong people look for explanationswithout making excuses. They accept full responsibility for their thoughts, feelings and behavior. The good news: We all have the ability to build mental strength. With hard work, we can improve our ability to manage our thoughts, regulate our emotions, and behave productively despite our circumstances. The stronger we become, the less likely we will use excuses to justify our bad choices.

"I'll take what you give me."

"I'll take what you give me."

What do we 'give' people?  Do we realise it?  Would it explain why you have the same problems with people?  Would it explain why your relationships have the same patterns? Would it explain things you've never been able to explain?

ITS ALL YOUR FAULT... that's a lie.

When I worked at Lifeline, I noticed two distinct kinds of people...  The sort that blamed everyone and everything for their problems and the other type who blamed themselves for everything and everyone else's problems.
What an awful way to live,  to genuinly believe that it's all your fault all the time... Everyone else's failures are yours,  every problem exists because there's something wrong with you...
It's a strange paradox...  To believe you are the cause and effect of everything is to say,  you matter that much, almost god like in your influence on the world...  Yet these types of people by deed and motive are the most humble and generous people on the planet.
These people think about everyone else before themselves to the point that when really important things happen,  they can collapse under pressure because they just have nothing left to give...
We all need to take care of ourselves,  take responsibility for ourselves, not others, keep ourselves strong so we can choose to help others in times of need! Be good to yourself,  be kind...  Be OK with helping yourself.

The most famous un-famous person in history? You.

We sit and wait as so many others are! You wish for a letter,  you wish for a gift,  or a big gesture,  a moment where no one else matters but you,  a fantasy of being unconditionally loved,  praised,  honoured,  maybe even worshiped for a moment....   You have the power to do this to someone... Write a letter,  personalise a gift,  say a kind word,  dedicate some uninterrupted time... that's very powerful,  and can be used as a tool to empower the lonely,  the sick,  the frightened, the enslaved,  the belittled, this power of words,  power of gifts,  power of time...  We can all change the world...  The smallest deed can send ripples though history

A story...
I was selling flowers at the market a few days ag and the stall next to use was a father and daughter selling honey...  I had lots of discussions during down time... The little girl Eloisa (12-14 maybe) taught me lots about bees...  Anyway at the end of the day I stole a long stem red rose from our pile and thanked her, hoping she'd feel special... As I walked away I imaged the future for her life and choices that I'll never see...  That moment could change the choice she makes about a douche guy that treats her like shit but instead respects herself and has value and says no, which gives her the space to chase her dreams and meets other like minded people who unite and cure cancer,  cease world hunger, bring peace to humanity...  That's life changing...  Or it was just a flower and gets thrown away after I leave, the end...  Ill never know, but it's now a possibility...  We all have the power to change the world...  that's the exciting/terrifying thing about life.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

Submitted by Simon Says on December 16, 2014 - 4:31am

That enemy is fear ... anything else is a rationalisation of fear; fear given a narrative ... and all narratives are dysfunctional if you cannot see through to the fear behind them all.

Wrestling with 'what is right' choice and others choices

We say that people who don't have a choice with preferences of life,  as long as they don't hurt anyone,  we should accept them...  But what if i don't chose my feelings towards them...  Why do i have to change or hide?  Its not OK to be mean,  say cruel things,  do bad deeds...  None of that is acceptable,  but why do i have to be OK with someone's 'lack of choice' when my lack choice is opposite?  This is not an attack,  nor spacific...  But we all have physiological triggers and things that are connected to likes and dislikes...  I don't like men dressing up as women,  or women who dress up as men.  Then people would say...  "oh you hate transgender people" ... No...  I've known one individual,  and they were a nice person,  decent...  Didn't have a problem... "so how can you say...  " because there's other things in play...  I also don't like clowns...  Doesn't mean i don't like the person in the clown costume... or some dress ups...   seeing a pattern here?
There is a theory called the 'uncanny valley' look it up for more details,  but these pics are basic examples ...
So what's this got to do with me not liking men dressing up as women and women dressing up as men? (less the latter) because I have instinctively evolutionary feelings that if someone is trying to deceive me,  I feel threatened and my body goes into a mode of alertness.  I don't chose this...  Yet somehow society would say at a glance that I'm transgender-phobic...  So if they don't choose to be transgender,  and I don't chose for my psychology to be wary...  Then we do act on the choices we do have...  I may not like something but that doesn't mean it hurts me or me meaning harm on someone. We are all people, we have our struggles...  Our blessings and our curses...  It must be such a tough world when so many people don't accept ones identity...  I accept who you are...  Let's celebrate our similarities...  Humanity...  That's something we all share :-)

Amnesia Post... Advice to myself!

Where's the line between realistic and pessimistic?  Where's the line between hope and ignorance?  Do we lie or twist the truth to give us false hope do we warp or focus too much on negative outcomes...  Make sure your hope is real because negativity might be just being realistic and make sure negativity/worry don't overpower the possibilities of the good.

Open to Being Closed

Isn't it unusual...  We live in what some would say, a closed minded world...  But more and more are becoming open minded,  and in a way forcing their open minded message on 'closed minded' people (which is only a perception from your point of view) ... So why are the 'open minded' closed to the idea of being closed...  So to be open minded is to accept others choices with sometimes the absence of understanding ... If we were truly open minded,  maybe we would stop trying to train the closed minded to think like us.

Creativity Slavery

Why do we want to control creativity?  Are we scared. I think because people don't know how or where they get their thoughts,  they fear that one day they'll lose it...  That's a real fear, Sting from the band The Police, has the fear of a blank note pad...  That fear of one day you just 'loose it'. It's interesting that kids don't have this fear...  Well not instinctively...  Its beautiful to just create and not worry about the end result,  just do it for the enjoyment of.

I think...  I think...  The worst thing you can do is have something spacific in mind and chase that...  Because you could be chasing your whole life,  chase the feeling instead!

Controlling Mind Games

Normal people doing their best and making normal mistakes.
It's said that modern education and learning techniques discourage and punish mistakes,  so we instinctively avid things that we might get wrong... 

Ever had that person in your life that is always on your back or criticising you? No matter how much you do right,  they'll make a big deal about that one tiny mistake.

Is there a chance they don't want us to get it right? They aren't over critical,  they are looking for your flaws and failures,  they could be deliberately setting you up for failure...  We all want to be praised and accepted so often we work harder to please the person who cannot be pleased. Maybe we should ask ourselves what these people's motives are...  And if it's not about the spirit of or the ethic of,  then chances are its not the mistakes that are the problem...  To them, you are the problem!

They are the one with the problem,  not you. Its their problem, not yours and don't let it be, don't let yourself play their games...  Stop trying to get it right for them,  because in their eyes you probably never will.

Knowledge, Motion, Action, Avoidance.

Aristotle said, “The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.” 

I wonder if we put too much emphasis on learning...  Sometimes...  I feel like some people study because it's an excuse to not take any real action...  It's like preparing for a meal,  buying the food but never cooking it...  At some point,  a good quality of your investment is wasted...  Maybe...  Sometimes you just gotta start doing it,  not prepare for it...  I don't think we really ever truly feel ready for big steps forward,  so stop waiting for the feeling

Even if know one reads this,  I need to hear this for myself...  Follow my own advice.

I learnt the difference between motion and action recently.  Motion is reading that book on health,  buying those running shoes,  getting that gun membership... Action is actually following that books advice,  running in those shoes and attending that gym. 
I'm the first to admit I usually put way to much into motion and not enough into action...  However I know many people that are reverse,  they put a lot of effort taking action only to find it was a waste of time and effort,  they can spend their whole lives working their ass off and not really have much to show for it.  To put it a simpler way...  They worked harder,  not smarter.

I guess the key like so many things, is balance.
I've been thinking of doing a blog for a while,  imagining the topics,  thinking of the benefits  like having a mental history for myself and being able to reflect etc but it's only me doing it that makes it a reality,  so maybe if in doubt go for action over motion... Maybe.

"Work beats talent when talent doesn't work"