How can you tell if someone really knows what they’re talking about?

 Ask them what they “don’t know” about the subject. If they are as enthusiastic as they were telling you what they do know, you’ve got someone who can see enough to know what they can’t see yet.

How do you know if someone knows what they’re talking about?

 The ultimate test if someone knows what they’re talking about.

How much time have the spent on that specific subject or at least thinking about it and what do they know they don’t know.

Mastery is about knowing what you don’t know.

Who are you trying to impress? You might be doing it wrong.

History judges you by what you achieved.

Society judges you by what you seem.

Family judges you by how you make them feel.

How do you know if it's paranoia or instinct?

Where's the line between instinct and paranoia? Experience and questions on one side, fear and assumptions on the other.

Goals out, systems in

Goals are good for planning your progress, while systems are good for actually making progress.

https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/an-nearly-foolproof-way-to-achieve-every-goal-you-set-wed.html

Fuck fear

I'm pretty fed up with almost everyone in my life with their deep fear and high strung anxiety... and for what? Because you might slightly go backwards in comforts, affluence and status? I feel like I'm this outlier... I'm not afraid or alone, it's just really really strange... maybe my time will come but there's just so much unnecessary fear out there! 

"There are more things to alarm us than to harm us, and we suffer more often in apprehension than reality."

Why do we put so much effort into unworthwhile things?

'Are you good at this?' ends up being a much stronger force than 'is this worth doing?'

Accountability vs Freewill

Where is the line? Where's the right balance? By you wanting more freewill, someone is losing there's. By submitting to accountability you are putting your faith in others who may only hack have their freewill in mind.

Where's the good balance?

Which bad feelings to ignore?

"A sense of discomfort is at times an accurate signal we need to pay close attention to, at other times it's a false alarm that we need to ignore."

Do you know which to ignore and which to take seriously? Many get it wrong.

How to get rich?

Work hard and play hard,  but my work is play,  so it's never really work...  So just go hard at it!.

S. Phelps

Secret to personal growth sumed up shorter than this title.

Be OK saying yes when you don't feel worthy,  and no when it's not worth it.
S Phelps

Do you really like 'new'?

People Don’t Want Something Truly New, They Want the Familiar Done Differently.

from Nir Eyal

Christianity dying? it doesn't have to.

We have observed, in the last half-century, an endless line of proposals and plans for ‘reviving,’ or ‘renewing,’ or ‘revitalizing’ the nation’s tired old denominations. To my knowledge, however, no one has yet succeeded in turning around a declining denomination. ~ George Hunter III

The solution.

Authenticly and relevance.

What do you mean?

I'm 30, born in 1986 going to a variety of denominations both because of family and choice... The pattern I noticed is people are with a particular denomination either because it's what their family believed or it was a reflection of themselves in some way,  I believe secularly it's called your 'tribe'. In my time on this earth, I've seen the noise grow,  in the late 90s advertisers had the rule of 7... After the 7th time,  people would be conscious of your message... early 2000s it was the rule of 9... 2017 it's now up to 24... When I wake up,  as I get ready for work I've already been exposed to hundreds of brands,  messages,  the noise of life...  There is one thing which cuts through in 2017 ... Simplicity and/or authenticity. Tradition is fine,  but if no one can tell simply or authenticly why,  it's not relevant and it's not authentic... 'that's how we've always done it' is an immediate fail,  'because the Bible says so' is a fail...  It's not against the Bible or the traditions,  replace the word Bible with literally anything else and the result is the same...  The paradox is we are after knowing why without it being complex...  The theory goes that if you can explain your subject matter to a 6 year old,  you truly understand.  Jesus did the same simplicity approach... It was simple,  it was relevant to the audience which was relateable and how he lived his life and how he spoke it was authentic...
In a world where we (milenials)  don't trust anyone,  we crave 'real'
Of course 'how' to achieve this I could talk for hours,  but it's best to start at 'what'.
The biggest hurdle is the 'I want to know why' with 'I don't trust you' and 'get to the point in a way I can understand without thinking too hard'... I will say this,  if you follow these two traits,  you can figure out how...
"the path of least resistance" and "a simple lie is more believable than a complicated truth"
Example.  Cold water freezes faster than hot water.
It sounds right but it's actually a lie... But as I start to explain the stupidly complex reason why hot water freezes faster than cold water,  the effort to understand why becomes greater than the desire to know which means the path of least resistance is to not care/not pursue the answer.

Finally regarding relevance...  "if you care about what I think,  I'll listen to what you have to say" everyone has an opinion, deep down,  it's not about being right,  it's about being valued,  needing to matter. Most people tie their opinions into their identity...  So when we argue with them,  it's not about someone rejecting their opinion,  we're rejecting them as a person. It's a hard way to live,  but somehow that's how this generation work.

And whether you think I'm right or wrong, does it matter? depending on what you want to achieve I guess, thrown out a statement,  as a non church goer I have data from outside the walls representing a demographic that has to be represented if looking to the future. If you feel my voice does not reflect milenials...  Ask yourself why? Search for other people in the milenials who are on the cusp of church...  We not only know why,  we have solutions...  We want what you want,  and even though it might not seem like it,  we're on the same side.

I'm happy to answer any questions but I probably won't go down a path of trying to defend my stance,  it's not tied to my identity so I don't mind if I don't hear any support for these ideas 😊

I wish you well in your journey to find knowledge and understanding,  peace be with you.

Silenced?

I think some people equate not being the only voice in the room as having no voice in the room.

Some comment I read.

Achieve the things you want in a really easy way

Achieve the things you say you want with this ridiculously simple trick.

If-Then plan + Coping plan.

If-Then
Having a trigger which activates the goal. If chocolate is offered to me I will say no...  If my alarm goes off, then I get up and exercise.

Coping plan
When I feel tried and don't want to get up and exercise,  I only have to get to the top of the driveway and if I still don't feel like it I can come back. When I really want to say yes to the chocolate I will go have a drink of water instead.

My feelings connected to your actions

Change the action of someone will change the feeling,  but what if we could change our action to change the feeling,  wouldn't you get the same result? So why do we want to change other things in people to change our feeling when there is other ways?

The smart paradox

If you need validation from test results to confirm you're smart,  you're probably not as smart as the results suggest.

Why are you so tried when you 'shouldn't' be?

Mental fatigue comes from making decisions,  the more you make,  the more tired you will be.

Sometimes there's more to life than we know

Lack of evidence doesn't always constitute lack of existence

Stop Trying To Please Everyone!

You'll never not piss someone off with who you are and what you believe,  so instead of figuring out who to please,  maybe figure out who you'd rather piss off? I want to piss off people who want their own way with everything,  I want to piss people off who exploit others for their gain, I want to piss others off who want to rob dreams and hopes of others,  I want to piss people off who think it's OK to hurt others for their pleasure or wreck people's lives for a moment of hideous indulgence. I want to piss off the people who make the world a worse place for them being in it.