You're avoiding something... it won't go away.

What you resist tends to persist.

Work, education, money, status - thought about investing in this?

Invest in relationships.

Clean a mind?

You know how we see others with 'problems' or things we think they're doing 'wrong' do we ever stop to think that they are already aware? There's some belief that 'if I told them, they would see and change and fix... maybe these people actually already know but they can't do anything about it or it's too hard. You know all those times you intended to clean a room or house or kitchen... if that's hard to clean a room when you should, how hard is to clean a mind?

Why some people are mostly normal, then go batshit crazy

It's incredibly taxing to be fighting demons day in day out and sometimes you need a rest by letting them win.

Life may swallow you up

If you think, and you do - you'll be fine.

Are you useless?

I read this and it made me sad.

I turned 17 and realized I didn't have a plan for life after that age and was actually planning on killing myself the night of my 18th bday but here I still am in a weird useless limbo that helps society none, my family none, myself none, and overall leaves me feeling like I am useless because tbh I really am.

My response.

Did you know almost all people that have something to sell you or take from you have slowly made you believe these feelings? So your value is determined by others opinions of your value... I'm here to tell you if you've ever appreciated a ladybird, a puppy or even a pretty flower, how much more valuable you are, a heart beat that desires to just be, a soul, a conscious awareness of the universe. You feel small, because you are so intelligent, you are aware of everything. You matter because you exist. You think, therefore, you are - with all your flaws and beauty... If you are so aware of what you aren't, it's means you're great enough to just be, And being you is enough... it always has been and always will be. Just be. It is what it is and enjoy being a being with no guilt, no remorse. Just be. Be. .... be.

Secret to personal growth sumed up shorter than this title.

Be OK saying yes when you don't feel worthy,  and no when it's not worth it.
S Phelps

Why doesn't anybody love me?

February 14th… the love/hate day of the year… You are either reminded of what you have, or what you don't have.
We all have an internal desire not to just be loved, but also to be allowed to give love… When we miss an ex - we miss the right to love and be loved freely - we don't miss them/what made them become an ex. On this day, more people break up than any other day (according to Facebook). It's also the day that makes more people miserable than perhaps happy. Why? It forces us to be honest and real with ourselves, it makes us reflect on things we've avoided, thoughts we have buried and feelings we deny. If you are feeling lonely today, remember, you do have love in your life… from maybe a pet to maybe a parent - you can give love, you can bless others and I hope you receive love too! don't be afraid, you will find love… but love yourself first, learn how to be kind to yourself, "You only accept the love you think you deserve" so if you don't like yourself very much - you may never let in anyone enough to truly experience love and have trouble giving them love because you feel what you have is not enough… It is… if it's from the heart, from you and you meant it, it's enough! Learn your love language, (Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service) understand what makes you tick so you can help others love you in the way that speaks to you.
Be brave… be honest… don't settle…. be kind… be you, because you are enough.

Wanna be successful? Here's how!

Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, or Friends: Pick 3

You can have it all. Just not all at the same time.

You're the problem and the solution

"Attitude trumps intelligence, passion trumps process but excuses trumps you."
S. Phelps

Therapy Explained In One Paragraph

We don't go to therapy because you are weak,  you go because you are strong.
What's the difference if you talk about it or not?
We vary rarely think in linear but to talk forces us to give the thought a beginning middle and an end. This makes as feel more control,  less fearful and makes the problem seem like less of a big deal because it is graspable. Imagine you see something in the dark,  it has a shape, a presence, it freaks you out - why does it freak you out? Because there are an infinite amount of possibilities including many threatening and dangerous possibilities... Turn the light on...  It's a cat. By shining a light on a million possibilities it sometimes becomes very obvious very quickly. Therapy shines a light on things inside your own mind, giving you a chance to see something that may not have been obvious before,  lost in the darkness of swirling thoughts and feelings...  The best thing is,  it's not the therapist that shines the light on these things,  but you,  they just help you find the light switch.

When the person we're attracted to becomes unattractive

http://www.debriefdaily.com/relationships/not-attracted-to-wife/

My thoughts on this article about how a married man stopped being attracted to his wife as she gained weight.

First of all ladies,  this must be a terrible feeling and a major fear! I personally have had this happen to me,  not once,  but twice in my longest relationships...  They loved me but didn't find me attractive as time went on, they both literally said the words "I'm not attracted to you anymore"...  I'm old enough to know better now but when I was younger I just knew there were major problems with physical intimacy for a while leading up to it...
So here's the question...
Do we choose our family based on attraction? absolutely not,  what about friend work colleagues?  unconsciously maybe but probably not...  How bout just your friends,  or best friends? I'm guessing no. What do all of these have in common? You don't have to be attracted to them to have a good relationship,  but you do need to be attracted to them in a large way to desire physical passion. We're all attracted to different things and we can't fake it when we're not,  but that doesn't mean we don't love them...  It's complicated and really only the two individuals can come to a  decision on how to move forward. With me,  it meant the end of the relationship even though at the time I didn't want them to.

Final thoughts,  becoming unattractive is much more complicated than someone gaining weight,  rather its the personality of the person that starts to see themselves differently as they gain weight... Our outsides have a way of giving us a gimps what's on the inside - weight gain is one of many indicators that something is wrong, but not always... 
Most importantly, be the best you you can be for you,  regardless of size or the opinion of others.

ITS ALL YOUR FAULT... that's a lie.

When I worked at Lifeline, I noticed two distinct kinds of people...  The sort that blamed everyone and everything for their problems and the other type who blamed themselves for everything and everyone else's problems.
What an awful way to live,  to genuinly believe that it's all your fault all the time... Everyone else's failures are yours,  every problem exists because there's something wrong with you...
It's a strange paradox...  To believe you are the cause and effect of everything is to say,  you matter that much, almost god like in your influence on the world...  Yet these types of people by deed and motive are the most humble and generous people on the planet.
These people think about everyone else before themselves to the point that when really important things happen,  they can collapse under pressure because they just have nothing left to give...
We all need to take care of ourselves,  take responsibility for ourselves, not others, keep ourselves strong so we can choose to help others in times of need! Be good to yourself,  be kind...  Be OK with helping yourself.

Step back a little closer. Is your marriage doomed before it starts?

In the end, some partners feel that their problems will solve themselves in due time, or that their problems are “too small” to seek therapy for. Showing that time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds, the median duration of a marriage ending in divorce in Australia was recorded at 12.2 years in 2011, with nearly 50,000 divorces being granted in the same year.

“It isn’t a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

How long will yours last? Why? What will you do about it? Can you do something about it before you even start the relationship?

Maybe being truthful to yourself and about yourself,  being honest and acting on it.  Easier said than done. Don't be afraid of someone rejecting you for you in the first few dates,  because if you show them someone you're not,  they'll still reject you,  just a much longer time later.