You are not as kind as you think you are.

If your kindness doesn't give the person receiving kindness any agency, voice or respect... It's not kindness.

kindness fails when it's disrespectful.

Sometimes we're using kindness for only selfish reasons... maybe to prop up our own image in the eyes of ourselves or of the people around us. Maybe it's control, maybe to make people feel the way you want them to feel.

Like most things, it's the honest motives that help determine, but unfortunately this is one of the easiest categories to deny because no one can really call you out... it's super ambiguous.

Your dark side walks beside you

Get to know you're own shadow. Whether you like it or not, you'll be traveling together forever.

Therapy Explained In One Paragraph

We don't go to therapy because you are weak,  you go because you are strong.
What's the difference if you talk about it or not?
We vary rarely think in linear but to talk forces us to give the thought a beginning middle and an end. This makes as feel more control,  less fearful and makes the problem seem like less of a big deal because it is graspable. Imagine you see something in the dark,  it has a shape, a presence, it freaks you out - why does it freak you out? Because there are an infinite amount of possibilities including many threatening and dangerous possibilities... Turn the light on...  It's a cat. By shining a light on a million possibilities it sometimes becomes very obvious very quickly. Therapy shines a light on things inside your own mind, giving you a chance to see something that may not have been obvious before,  lost in the darkness of swirling thoughts and feelings...  The best thing is,  it's not the therapist that shines the light on these things,  but you,  they just help you find the light switch.