Surprising confidence hack

Confidence is the acceptance of vulnerability.

You're avoiding something... it won't go away.

What you resist tends to persist.

They are stealing

When a person or place screws you over, not getting what you pay for like bad food at a supermarket. Then they offer you a refund....

Here's the thing...

You stole my money, you stole my time, you stole my energy. When you offer me a refund you've still stolen my time and energy.

What are you getting yourself into?

Perhaps before you interact with others over a controversial topic, establish... Is this a curious discussion? A heated discussion? Or a metaphorical burn at stake?

Formula for success?

Success happens when hard work shakes hands with bravery and knowledge.

~ Phelps

When something is wrong but seem like you made it up

We remember feelings, vibes and the 'spirit' of prior events, but it's really difficult to remember and hold onto details. That's why it seems like we're just throwing out wild accusations when trying to communicate with someone an issue from the past without 'hard evidence'.

When to ignore and when to embrace change

Today is not deciding tomorrow, today is for grieving.
Today is not for grieving, today is deciding tomorrow.

The face

I've been finding the strangest inspiration recently... I lack motivation for so many things, waiting for a feeling to 'feel' like doing a task... lately I've been imagining the person's face I'm doing this task for and it's really helping! ! ! There's not even happy or anger on the faces, just the face, it makes me feel, something like empathy, kindness and compassion, it's really helping me get things done.

Regret a decision?

If you made a past choice which didn't work out - if you made the choice with all your knowledge at your disposal, it wasn't a foolish choice.

Why do I sometimes handle things really badly?

We default to handling old problems in old ways.

Phelps

The fear of loss

The Hierophant: A priest in ancient Greece who interprets sacred mysteries or esoteric principles.

The seeker, having created a solid foundation, is struck with a sudden fear. What if everything he’s worked for is taken away, stolen, lost, destroyed or vanishes?

In a panic he heads to find the Hierophant and receive his teachings.

He tells the Hierophant his fears and asks how he can be free of them.

“There are only two ways”, says the Hierophant:

“Either give up that, which you fear to lose, so it no longer holds any power over you”, or
“Consider what you will still have if your fear comes to pass.”

“After all,” the Hierophant continues, “if you did lose all you’d built, you would still keep the experience and knowledge that you’ve gained up to this point, wouldn’t you?”

How to last the distance

Joy will take you way further than gritted teeth.

Sabotage yourself

Why do we sabotage ourselves? Simple.  It's control over a situation you feel out of control in.  You'd rather feel safer with power than delayed gratification with 'hope'.

Want more control over people? Don't do this!

Don't try and read minds - it can't be done!

Make it about you by not making it about you

Take a breath and acknowledge that 95% of what someone else does has absolutely nothing to do with you. Yes--even if you feel that they've talked about you, misused you or done you other wrongs, still their main concern isnot you. It's them. Trust this: realizing that other people with no "investment" in you also have no "interest" in you--and that their activity probably has nothing to do with you--is a big part of forgiving and being less paranoid. So spend extra time with this one idea:"Convince yourself that the other person is pretty ignorant when it comes to you and your feelings--and so, you need not worry about them!"

Sick cycle carousel

I lied to be the victim, the truth would have been easier and everyone would be blameless and no ill effects would be felt,  is it revenge, is it something to do with my own sense of injustice and making the injustice obvious? And then, it all washes away,  the kind word, the patient gesture, the lovely manner...  Everything is fine again, injustice is just a dream until you sleep then wake again, how do you break the cycle? By first acknowledging there is a cycle

Hurting People Hurt People

If someone is mean to us, we take it personally,  but what if you knew that someone had just lost a loved one like a spouse or a parent? Do we still take it personally,  or do we rationalise that their pain is being transfered onto us? There's a good chance that most mean deeds spring from outside pain and unresolved feelings.
Hurting people hurt people. Try not to take it personally, otherwise you'll be hurting too and may pass that on.

Power Over Your Problems

You gotta take responsibility for your own problems, it's not saying every problem is your fault but saying every problems' solution is up to you.

As long as you blame everything or everyone else you are saying 'I am powerless and the solution is at the mercy of others and/or circumstances

The most empowering thing you can do is own your problems so you have power to control solutions.