Decision deciding?

There are no solutions, only trade offs.

Talking to girls: be nice, not creepy

Instead of saying 'I like your earrings', say 'those are cool hoop earrings'.

It's less about her and her choice (a comment on her) and more about 'it' and it's value (a comment on something you have in common - both thinking it's cool enough to wear and cool enough to comment).

Winning with facts is fiction

Facts aren't some superpower which wins all battles, but charm might be.
Phelps

Intent verses action

Intent verses action.
Do you want to reward yourself for intent? Do you get punished' because of your actions (or lack there of)?

Maybe there needs to be an 'aware middle'

Manslaughter is probably the best example of this.
You drunk with a friend, you drive the car, they go car surfing on the roof while you drive. They come off, hit their head and subsequently die.
Was it your intent to kill them? No. But the end results of your actions caused a death.
In the courts, the difference between murder and manslaughter is intent. So clearly it matters. But someone lost a life through your actions so clearly that matters too.

I forgot to remember I forget

Friend posted this comment...

“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.”

My response
I agree... Observation though... I've been keeping a blog (this one) for [nearly] 4 years, on average 4 posts a month, basically it tracks what's important to me at the time, observations, thoughts, theories... It's amazing how much of it I forget, it's amazing how something which was important eventually becomes a distant memory, so I don't think all ideas stay 'stretched' some inevitably go back to how it was before thinking about it... and I'd never have realised this if I didn't experiment on myself.

I forgot to remember I forget

Responses

The information may become memory; which is a more peaceful way to exist; though the stretching of the mind is done at the point of learning; altering the minds original trajectory. Or dimension as that quote put it.

Your mind has expanded significantly in the past 4 years.

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It sure has, and that's evident with the documentation... It's original purpose was to practice articulating and dividing complex thoughts and theories ... I did get better but I'm still a bit wordy... One day I'll have those light bulb one liners like the one which inspired this chat

Always pushing

We're never satisfied,  always stepping it to scary new levels - anyone is capable of anything at any time - good or bad.

http://awarenessact.com/artist-stood-for-6-hours-and-let-people-do-what-they-wanted-to-her-body/

ITS ALL YOUR FAULT... that's a lie.

When I worked at Lifeline, I noticed two distinct kinds of people...  The sort that blamed everyone and everything for their problems and the other type who blamed themselves for everything and everyone else's problems.
What an awful way to live,  to genuinly believe that it's all your fault all the time... Everyone else's failures are yours,  every problem exists because there's something wrong with you...
It's a strange paradox...  To believe you are the cause and effect of everything is to say,  you matter that much, almost god like in your influence on the world...  Yet these types of people by deed and motive are the most humble and generous people on the planet.
These people think about everyone else before themselves to the point that when really important things happen,  they can collapse under pressure because they just have nothing left to give...
We all need to take care of ourselves,  take responsibility for ourselves, not others, keep ourselves strong so we can choose to help others in times of need! Be good to yourself,  be kind...  Be OK with helping yourself.

Step back a little closer. Is your marriage doomed before it starts?

In the end, some partners feel that their problems will solve themselves in due time, or that their problems are “too small” to seek therapy for. Showing that time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds, the median duration of a marriage ending in divorce in Australia was recorded at 12.2 years in 2011, with nearly 50,000 divorces being granted in the same year.

“It isn’t a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

How long will yours last? Why? What will you do about it? Can you do something about it before you even start the relationship?

Maybe being truthful to yourself and about yourself,  being honest and acting on it.  Easier said than done. Don't be afraid of someone rejecting you for you in the first few dates,  because if you show them someone you're not,  they'll still reject you,  just a much longer time later.