Incest

My response.  To this article...  Am I right?  Am I wrong?  Probably both and neither.

http://mobile.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/genetic-sexual-attraction-18-year-old-woman-opens-up-about-marrying-her-father/story-fnet0gt3-1227188412830

Oh please...  Two consenting adults...  Was society not talking like this about gays 50 years ago (and shorter) have we not learnt,  just because you wouldn't do it,  doesn't mean others have to follow... Sure there are probably a lot of proven unhealthy psychological issues in play that are proven in many people,  but the act itself has nothing to do with us and by shaming people who are like this (who can't help it I suspect just like many other behaviors we have learnt to accept) just makes another skeleton in the closest for I suspect many many people. Would I do it?  god no!  Who's reading this would you?  Statistical no. But these people feel the way they do and in the western world...  If both parties are consenting, legal age,  and not hurting anyone by their choices,  then who are we to condemn?

Wrestling with 'what is right' choice and others choices

We say that people who don't have a choice with preferences of life,  as long as they don't hurt anyone,  we should accept them...  But what if i don't chose my feelings towards them...  Why do i have to change or hide?  Its not OK to be mean,  say cruel things,  do bad deeds...  None of that is acceptable,  but why do i have to be OK with someone's 'lack of choice' when my lack choice is opposite?  This is not an attack,  nor spacific...  But we all have physiological triggers and things that are connected to likes and dislikes...  I don't like men dressing up as women,  or women who dress up as men.  Then people would say...  "oh you hate transgender people" ... No...  I've known one individual,  and they were a nice person,  decent...  Didn't have a problem... "so how can you say...  " because there's other things in play...  I also don't like clowns...  Doesn't mean i don't like the person in the clown costume... or some dress ups...   seeing a pattern here?
There is a theory called the 'uncanny valley' look it up for more details,  but these pics are basic examples ...
So what's this got to do with me not liking men dressing up as women and women dressing up as men? (less the latter) because I have instinctively evolutionary feelings that if someone is trying to deceive me,  I feel threatened and my body goes into a mode of alertness.  I don't chose this...  Yet somehow society would say at a glance that I'm transgender-phobic...  So if they don't choose to be transgender,  and I don't chose for my psychology to be wary...  Then we do act on the choices we do have...  I may not like something but that doesn't mean it hurts me or me meaning harm on someone. We are all people, we have our struggles...  Our blessings and our curses...  It must be such a tough world when so many people don't accept ones identity...  I accept who you are...  Let's celebrate our similarities...  Humanity...  That's something we all share :-)

The Pain of Feeling Like We Don't Matter

I believe that for us as humans everything stems from identity,  and the core component of that is feeling like we matter...  Anything that makes us feel like we don't matter hurts us in deep and profound ways.
The sad thing is most people's actions that make you feel like you don't matter are often a reflection on them,  not a reflection on you, we take it personally. How can you not? There was a great example in a book called 'walking on egg shells'and the example went something like this:
A bride chooses a church to get married in. A day before the wedding lightening strikes the church and it burns to the ground...  It is too late to find another venue. Naturally the Bride is very angry,  but she doesn't take it personally...  It's not like the lightening deliberately and intentionally was out to hurt the bride.

So much pain in life we take personally,  if we can try to understand pain is all around us and the people that love us rarely and truly don't want to hurt us,  but understand that they will... And when they do,  try to understand it's not about you,  it's probably more likely it's about them and their problems, pasts and mistakes.

I Understand That I Don't Understand

If there is something you don't get,  you don't understand,  then you don't get it and don't understand.

http://mobile.news.com.au/national/nsw-act/dramatic-moment-miracle-baby-was-pulled-from-storm-drain-after-surviving-five-days/story-fnii5s3x-1227132456229

I'm reading this article and I'm not understanding why the mother did what she did...  Then I realised,  I don't understand because I don't understand...  Anything that happens obviously happened and everything happens for a reason regardless of if we understand or not... We will never be inside the minds of these people and few have the ability to explain why,  and even if they do,  that doesn't mean we will accept what they have to say... But once again that doesn't change that it happened and it happened for a reason regardless if we understand why,  or we don't.

Open to Being Closed

Isn't it unusual...  We live in what some would say, a closed minded world...  But more and more are becoming open minded,  and in a way forcing their open minded message on 'closed minded' people (which is only a perception from your point of view) ... So why are the 'open minded' closed to the idea of being closed...  So to be open minded is to accept others choices with sometimes the absence of understanding ... If we were truly open minded,  maybe we would stop trying to train the closed minded to think like us.

Creativity Slavery

Why do we want to control creativity?  Are we scared. I think because people don't know how or where they get their thoughts,  they fear that one day they'll lose it...  That's a real fear, Sting from the band The Police, has the fear of a blank note pad...  That fear of one day you just 'loose it'. It's interesting that kids don't have this fear...  Well not instinctively...  Its beautiful to just create and not worry about the end result,  just do it for the enjoyment of.

I think...  I think...  The worst thing you can do is have something spacific in mind and chase that...  Because you could be chasing your whole life,  chase the feeling instead!

Loneliness

Epidemic of loneliness... And for many it's not as easy as just connecting with friends and/or family... Identity loneliness is very real...  It's where your identity is not validated by the people around you... So you could be surrounded by people and yet feel like there's no one around,  no one to connect to,  no one that gets you... 

There was a time in my life where I didn't fit in anywhere and that may explain why I started to go down a path I probably shouldn't have...

http://psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201409/is-marijuana-the-cure-loneliness