People would rather feel rich rather than actually get rich.
People would rather feel like they worked hard and earned their keep rather than actually do the kinds of hard work needed.
We'd rather face the pain we know rather than struggle to a better destination.
We'd rather pay the price of familiarity rather than the small cost of change.
If you can't 'thing/action X' 'time/space X, when/where can you?
It's really difficult for people to think one thing then immediately pivot to what you think.
Almost without fail there's a sentence which swings and I accidentally use it all the time.
Silly examples
If you can't close a lighthouse for painting during social distancing and winter time, when can you?
If you can't fart while going to the toilet, when can you?
In other words it challenges the person to go 'think of something better' and it's amazing how many people roll over and accept in that moment like no other phrase can.
Real examples might be you want pizza but someone else thinks that's unhealthy...
"If you can't have pizza on a Friday night after a hard week and home cooking all week, when can you?"
we need to teach our sons the difference between:
a woman who compromises him and a woman who will compromise with him
a woman who will stand on him and a woman who will stand with him
a woman in need of a parent and woman in need of a partner
a woman who expects everything from him and a woman who respects everything about him
Then we need to teach our daughter's to be that women.
Men V Women.
How to tell when it's a fair point? Reverse the genders... If the advice is both true and powerful regardless of if it's directed at male or female... It is not about gender, rather about humanity
The difference between collective and individual.
A man rapping a women is an individual action, the attitude towards it is collective.
A women belittles a man to the point of suicide is individual action, our response is collective. Both are important, but to swap is deadly
A man who raped a women turning into a collective is men can't be trusted, all are potential rapists... Then a man defends that he and others like him are a good guy with the swap, he is now and individual which means he holds no weight or authority only making him and his kind more guilty.
We may never get rid of individuals actions, but our goal as a collective is to be surprised about male / female inequality, to be surprised when a man does something to a women (or the other way round) that we are surprised and shocked that a women got attacked at night in a park by herself... Let's be surprised as a collective that a man does something bad against a women.
hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.
A less aggressive, more elegant way to say what Shia LaBeouf said.
Aristotle said, “The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.”
I wonder if we put too much emphasis on learning... Sometimes... I feel like some people study because it's an excuse to not take any real action... It's like preparing for a meal, buying the food but never cooking it... At some point, a good quality of your investment is wasted... Maybe... Sometimes you just gotta start doing it, not prepare for it... I don't think we really ever truly feel ready for big steps forward, so stop waiting for the feeling
Even if know one reads this, I need to hear this for myself... Follow my own advice.
I learnt the difference between motion and action recently. Motion is reading that book on health, buying those running shoes, getting that gun membership... Action is actually following that books advice, running in those shoes and attending that gym.
I'm the first to admit I usually put way to much into motion and not enough into action... However I know many people that are reverse, they put a lot of effort taking action only to find it was a waste of time and effort, they can spend their whole lives working their ass off and not really have much to show for it. To put it a simpler way... They worked harder, not smarter.
I guess the key like so many things, is balance.
I've been thinking of doing a blog for a while, imagining the topics, thinking of the benefits like having a mental history for myself and being able to reflect etc but it's only me doing it that makes it a reality, so maybe if in doubt go for action over motion... Maybe.
"Work beats talent when talent doesn't work"
