Life's unfair?

Be grateful you have something worth complaining about

Clean a mind?

You know how we see others with 'problems' or things we think they're doing 'wrong' do we ever stop to think that they are already aware? There's some belief that 'if I told them, they would see and change and fix... maybe these people actually already know but they can't do anything about it or it's too hard. You know all those times you intended to clean a room or house or kitchen... if that's hard to clean a room when you should, how hard is to clean a mind?

Surviving politics

Political parties used to make their opponent the 'bad evil one' but now they make out something else to be the bad thing (that can't defend itself) which is also much easier to make sound like a horrifying monster, then blame the other side for not caring enough, not doing enough, not taking it seriously enough. This is fantastic when the monster is pretty close to what the other side believes or thinks is good, hitting them twice.
'survival bias' is strong with us. Please recognise most things aren't that bad, or if they are, why is there attention regarding it right now?

There's no such thing as white privilege, there is however legacy privilege

'White' is short hand for 'had a better past'.

Racism by definition is to classify or negatively assign traits from the collective regardless of if it applies to the individual.

When you talk about any privilege, you're saying 'because of your race, class you are where you are' that's not correct, because of your past you are in part where you are. And statistically men, and white have occupied what the western world would call 'success'.
The problem with this game everyone seems to be playing looking and gender and skin is it's a game no one can win...
Women need more rights to make up for man's dominance... ok, but if that's the game, then black people need more rights against the white woman...
Then trans people need more rights against black women
Then a disabled trans black woman needs more rights

And we haven't even touched on income, home life, personal history... you just can't do this and win, it's a 'race' to see who has it worse...

What if you're a white man (image in your head) but is an eastern European person coming from communist torturer crimes where his whole family was killed verses say Serena Williams?
If the argument, it's the collective and collateral damage to individuals is the price of over equality... That is actually exactly what communism is built on!

So what do we do then? Let white men rule and everyone suffer? God no, treat everyone the individuals they are, and if it's in your nature to try the equality path, go for it, but don't attach it to gender or skin colour for goodness sake, there are so many more measurable things which matter so much... we can start with our childhood where we were all once at the mercy of people much more powerful and made choices we had no say over.

Read this... it's a start to a fairer, equal and happy society by empathising with each other's burdens.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/driven-distraction/201802/how-people-beat-the-odds-after-rough-childhood?

The opposite of love and fear is the opposite of what you think

People think the opposite of love is hate... It's not because in order to hate there must be some part which cares enough to hate. Hate is the antidote to love but not the opposite. The opposite to love is apathy.

If you agree with that line of thinking, what's the opposite of fear? It's not excitement, the body processes both this emotions very similarly.

I think the opposite of fear is boredom.

Something I'm going to think about more.

You're wrong anyway, so...

https://goo.gl/images/kZMgzL

Instead of trying to be what others think you should, get to know who you are, what is your identity? What do you stand for? What do you want?

Fuck fear

I'm pretty fed up with almost everyone in my life with their deep fear and high strung anxiety... and for what? Because you might slightly go backwards in comforts, affluence and status? I feel like I'm this outlier... I'm not afraid or alone, it's just really really strange... maybe my time will come but there's just so much unnecessary fear out there! 

"There are more things to alarm us than to harm us, and we suffer more often in apprehension than reality."

Most people love you for who you pretend to be.

I found this random comment on trying to 'impress a potential partner'.

Just be yourself because whatever you try to hide or be will soon discovered.

That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending - performing. You get to love your pretence. It's true, we're locked in an image, an act - and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you're trying to steal their most precious possession.

It just stood out for me, not sure why

Why are feminists angry?

Philosophers believe the pendulum must swing both directions for a time before finding it's equilibrium.
In short, we need someone to be angry about injustices to counterbalance the inappropriate actions, which unfortunately come at high personal costs to an individual for the sake of the cause.

Why some people are mostly normal, then go batshit crazy

It's incredibly taxing to be fighting demons day in day out and sometimes you need a rest by letting them win.

I'm a dick

Would you rather honest arrogance or false humility?

The face

I've been finding the strangest inspiration recently... I lack motivation for so many things, waiting for a feeling to 'feel' like doing a task... lately I've been imagining the person's face I'm doing this task for and it's really helping! ! ! There's not even happy or anger on the faces, just the face, it makes me feel, something like empathy, kindness and compassion, it's really helping me get things done.

The mono problem of non monogamy

I love vox, they've just released a Netflix series and this first episode was about how unnatural it is to be monogamous... here's the video

https://youtu.be/DCGyLjBjuGI

I Love it, I think there's excellent points except one thing wasn't addressed... if it's so natural to not be monogamous... why is it people get so hurt and offended when the other partner does a non monogamous act?  Why does it trigger THE strongest emotion I've ever seen in people (*cough* Jerry Springer)? If something is natural, our feelings line up with our desires, and that doesn't happen with the majority of the population.

Had a few comments saying it's the childhood conditionings, social standards, pop culture etc.... My thoughts back.

Yeah great points and you're right, they do touch on at the start of the piece. 'Social conditioning' explains why someone feels bad when they 'cheat' or that guilt stops them, but as they said statistically it doesn't actually stop people from doing it, what I'm observing that nearly 100% of people don't like being cheated on... think about it, if one in 5 were in non monogamous relationships, wouldn't they be understanding back? Sex and 'love' (desire) always finds a way despite social conditioning, it just goes underground...
And if you're doubling down on 'but early in childhood we're shown this is what it is' we rebel against 20% of what we're conditioned to, and then we grow up and make our own choices and sometimes question feelings and go against those despite the fears. In fact there's many social circles who would not condemn you for not being monogamous.... it's harder being trans than it is to not be monogamous... And yet, we like the idea of us being free, but don't like the idea of our partner being the same to the point most would break up or end the relationship... That's so powerful!  It's not all surely inspired by a few fairytales and 'what society does and expects'.

I forgot to remember I forget

Friend posted this comment...

“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.”

My response
I agree... Observation though... I've been keeping a blog (this one) for [nearly] 4 years, on average 4 posts a month, basically it tracks what's important to me at the time, observations, thoughts, theories... It's amazing how much of it I forget, it's amazing how something which was important eventually becomes a distant memory, so I don't think all ideas stay 'stretched' some inevitably go back to how it was before thinking about it... and I'd never have realised this if I didn't experiment on myself.

I forgot to remember I forget

Responses

The information may become memory; which is a more peaceful way to exist; though the stretching of the mind is done at the point of learning; altering the minds original trajectory. Or dimension as that quote put it.

Your mind has expanded significantly in the past 4 years.

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It sure has, and that's evident with the documentation... It's original purpose was to practice articulating and dividing complex thoughts and theories ... I did get better but I'm still a bit wordy... One day I'll have those light bulb one liners like the one which inspired this chat

Why do we put so much effort into unworthwhile things?

'Are you good at this?' ends up being a much stronger force than 'is this worth doing?'

The loss of pain and the loss of pleasure

Getting used to something is humanities biggest blessing and biggest curse.

Is the past really the past you remember?

Feelings have a way of fooling the present of the past

The positive of being negative with a twist

When you have a deeply critical eye, you are one of the few people that have a shot at perfection! Except, what happens if you can't fix the problem you've noticed? That's why you also need to be an optimist to see what's right and what's right with other things to use that as a guide to fix what's wrong.

If you're a critical person, you can obtain perfection if you can not be too.

Regret a decision?

If you made a past choice which didn't work out - if you made the choice with all your knowledge at your disposal, it wasn't a foolish choice.

Life may swallow you up

If you think, and you do - you'll be fine.

Accountability vs Freewill

Where is the line? Where's the right balance? By you wanting more freewill, someone is losing there's. By submitting to accountability you are putting your faith in others who may only hack have their freewill in mind.

Where's the good balance?

Is 'truth' the full truth?

We're not looking for truth, we're looking to believe our own thoughts.
Phelps

Too much or not enough thinking?

Using instinct or snap judgement is using past experience, thinking and dwelling over something is creating new experience.

Old education solving a new problem

Maybe I've been looking at education all wrong... I think it's a waste of time in a traditional sense, high fees, slow, old, rope learning, regurgitation... but maybe it's strength is it's structure, routine and accountability, thus freeing up our mind to take in more? If our will power is a finite resource drained by thought and choice, maybe it's good most choices are taken away so early on to free up space for an experienced teacher to fill it. Maybe!

Are you useless?

I read this and it made me sad.

I turned 17 and realized I didn't have a plan for life after that age and was actually planning on killing myself the night of my 18th bday but here I still am in a weird useless limbo that helps society none, my family none, myself none, and overall leaves me feeling like I am useless because tbh I really am.

My response.

Did you know almost all people that have something to sell you or take from you have slowly made you believe these feelings? So your value is determined by others opinions of your value... I'm here to tell you if you've ever appreciated a ladybird, a puppy or even a pretty flower, how much more valuable you are, a heart beat that desires to just be, a soul, a conscious awareness of the universe. You feel small, because you are so intelligent, you are aware of everything. You matter because you exist. You think, therefore, you are - with all your flaws and beauty... If you are so aware of what you aren't, it's means you're great enough to just be, And being you is enough... it always has been and always will be. Just be. It is what it is and enjoy being a being with no guilt, no remorse. Just be. Be. .... be.

Do as I say, but I won't do it myself.

We cannot hold a trouch to light another's path without brightening our own - Ben Sweetland

How many of us tell people what they should be doing when we don't do it ourselves... It's like saying 'use my light to see' but there's no light for either of you and you both go astray.

Get your own shit in order before trying to order others.

Most decisions are reversible

Are you really worried something bad might happen, or are you mistaking 'bad' for just 'inconvenient'?
Phelps

Loss aversion losing

By trying to avoid something going wrong will you also be stopping something that is already right?
Phelps

Why can't some people see the obvious?

A 5 year old can't point out a bad maths teacher.
S Phelps

Will power always blowing up?

Pressure valve tactics mind organiser

The plan of the ideal, then the backup plan that allows the pressure to be released without the plan blowing up.
Have as many backup plans as you want.... each one releases more pressure until It's barely different from the regular instinct

Renew

Some things have to become a problem to show there's a problem. If you want change, sometimes you'll have to make it fail to get full support for change from others. Because if it's not falling for them, what do they care?

'Normal'

If you know someone who is normal, you probably don't know them very well.

Phelps

Is this education now?

'Pay someone to tell you how to think so  someone else can then pay you to regurgitate what you know.'

Phelps