Miss a moment of you

Is there a word for missing people who they were in a moment in time?

Is 'truth' the full truth?

We're not looking for truth, we're looking to believe our own thoughts.
Phelps

Too much or not enough thinking?

Using instinct or snap judgement is using past experience, thinking and dwelling over something is creating new experience.

Truth about your fears

Emotions like anxiety and fear have their roots in uncertainty, rarely in experience

What makes something 'normal'?

Apathy is the backdrop of normal.

Phelps

Sabotage yourself

Why do we sabotage ourselves? Simple.  It's control over a situation you feel out of control in.  You'd rather feel safer with power than delayed gratification with 'hope'.

Sometimes there's more to life than we know

Lack of evidence doesn't always constitute lack of existence

The Nawing in my Head

Unhappiness comes from comparison of others. When you are compared to others you will lose,  and so will they,  there's always someone with a skill that's better than yours and you'll always have a skill that's better than there's. We just have to be the best person we can be and believe and hope that's enough for ourselves and others.

If disclosure beings connection,  then creating things you wouldn't disclose to others with someone must bring an even deeper connection.

Secrets withheld from one another create isolation.

A secret world that's a bit of a fantasy can be exciting,  personal and connecting...  But when you watch someone else do that it brings distance and loneliness.

All any of us want is to give and receive love unconditionally and feel safe to do so.

Do You Think You Know?

"It's easy to know what you think, until you think about what everyone else is thinking."
S. Phelps

The truth and the perception

Just because I spelt a word wrong,  doesn't mean I don't know how to spell it,  and just because I spelt it right doesn't mean I know how to spell it.

The career dating dance

A company rejecting you for being 'overqualified' is like saying 'that girl is too hot for me so I'll say no even though she wants me' Sure you probably won't grow old together, and yeah she'll probably realise she can do better but it will be amazing while it lasts!

Is it really that simple?

'Simple' is not always defined by the process or procedure, rather it's the perception and acknowledgment of focus.

"Love is" You will never hear this said at a wedding.

June 1 2013

Facebook Post...

Love is in a hurry, love is cruel. It is jealous, it always compares, it is selfish. It violates, it is attention-seeking, it is easily angered, it keeps record of wrongs. Love  delights in control, rejoices in manipulation and fueled by dependence. It gets abusive, always doubts, always worries, always hanging by a moment.Love fails. Love destroys Love panics, love is our captor.

Love reminds us of how imperfect we are, how out of control, how vulnerable and insecure we are.
Out of pain comes strength, out of suffering comes resilience, out of hardship comes growth. No one can escape loves clutches - it's what we all have in common, it's what unites us, makes us human... Makes us humanity.

Good Cop Bad Cop

If you have a bag of weed in your car,  the police are your enemy...  If you are held hostage,  the police are your hero.

Good to Bad Shifting Scale

To have a high you need to have lows,  how do you know how high or low is if there is no point of difference...  Try having 3 cups of water,  cold,  room temp warm, hot.  If I dip my hand into the cold first,  the middle feels warm,  if I dip my hand into hot the middle then feels cool...  Oh relativity...  A blessing and a curse, you can make good things bad and bad good,  make good things great and bad things catastrophic it all just depends on how you look at it and relative to.
Nothing is ever just good or bad.

Knowledge, Motion, Action, Avoidance.

Aristotle said, “The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.” 

I wonder if we put too much emphasis on learning...  Sometimes...  I feel like some people study because it's an excuse to not take any real action...  It's like preparing for a meal,  buying the food but never cooking it...  At some point,  a good quality of your investment is wasted...  Maybe...  Sometimes you just gotta start doing it,  not prepare for it...  I don't think we really ever truly feel ready for big steps forward,  so stop waiting for the feeling

Even if know one reads this,  I need to hear this for myself...  Follow my own advice.

I learnt the difference between motion and action recently.  Motion is reading that book on health,  buying those running shoes,  getting that gun membership... Action is actually following that books advice,  running in those shoes and attending that gym. 
I'm the first to admit I usually put way to much into motion and not enough into action...  However I know many people that are reverse,  they put a lot of effort taking action only to find it was a waste of time and effort,  they can spend their whole lives working their ass off and not really have much to show for it.  To put it a simpler way...  They worked harder,  not smarter.

I guess the key like so many things, is balance.
I've been thinking of doing a blog for a while,  imagining the topics,  thinking of the benefits  like having a mental history for myself and being able to reflect etc but it's only me doing it that makes it a reality,  so maybe if in doubt go for action over motion... Maybe.

"Work beats talent when talent doesn't work"