People would rather feel rich rather than actually get rich.
People would rather feel like they worked hard and earned their keep rather than actually do the kinds of hard work needed.
We'd rather face the pain we know rather than struggle to a better destination.
We'd rather pay the price of familiarity rather than the small cost of change.
When a person or place screws you over, not getting what you pay for like bad food at a supermarket. Then they offer you a refund....
Here's the thing...
You stole my money, you stole my time, you stole my energy. When you offer me a refund you've still stolen my time and energy.
Our 'animal' actions and reactions are shaped by our conscious and subconscious thoughts and cultural environments by either our design or by accident.
We over estimate how fast we are in the short term, we underestimate how much we can achieve in the long term.
"We over estimate how much we can do in a year and under estimate how much we can do in 10 years".
..."In fact, some evolutionary psychologists have argued that throughout human history, dominance has been more important than attractiveness for men’s mating success."...
So this attractive notion the West has created, men have bought into the lie...
The aim isn't to be attractive (although it's not discouraged) it's to show dominance, give the impression or perception (not necessarily actual dominance)
Let's call it 'signaling'.
Figure out the problem the fastest by asking this question...
"What would you like me to be sorry about?"
Instead of saying 'I like your earrings', say 'those are cool hoop earrings'.
It's less about her and her choice (a comment on her) and more about 'it' and it's value (a comment on something you have in common - both thinking it's cool enough to wear and cool enough to comment).
If you approach a crucial conversation with a story and conclusion already in mind, there's no room for dialogue because your mind is already made up.
You know how we see others with 'problems' or things we think they're doing 'wrong' do we ever stop to think that they are already aware? There's some belief that 'if I told them, they would see and change and fix... maybe these people actually already know but they can't do anything about it or it's too hard. You know all those times you intended to clean a room or house or kitchen... if that's hard to clean a room when you should, how hard is to clean a mind?
I'm pretty fed up with almost everyone in my life with their deep fear and high strung anxiety... and for what? Because you might slightly go backwards in comforts, affluence and status? I feel like I'm this outlier... I'm not afraid or alone, it's just really really strange... maybe my time will come but there's just so much unnecessary fear out there!
"There are more things to alarm us than to harm us, and we suffer more often in apprehension than reality."
Philosophers believe the pendulum must swing both directions for a time before finding it's equilibrium.
In short, we need someone to be angry about injustices to counterbalance the inappropriate actions, which unfortunately come at high personal costs to an individual for the sake of the cause.
Friend posted this comment...
“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.”
My response
I agree... Observation though... I've been keeping a blog (this one) for [nearly] 4 years, on average 4 posts a month, basically it tracks what's important to me at the time, observations, thoughts, theories... It's amazing how much of it I forget, it's amazing how something which was important eventually becomes a distant memory, so I don't think all ideas stay 'stretched' some inevitably go back to how it was before thinking about it... and I'd never have realised this if I didn't experiment on myself.
I forgot to remember I forget
Responses
The information may become memory; which is a more peaceful way to exist; though the stretching of the mind is done at the point of learning; altering the minds original trajectory. Or dimension as that quote put it.
Your mind has expanded significantly in the past 4 years.
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It sure has, and that's evident with the documentation... It's original purpose was to practice articulating and dividing complex thoughts and theories ... I did get better but I'm still a bit wordy... One day I'll have those light bulb one liners like the one which inspired this chat
We're not looking for truth, we're looking to believe our own thoughts.
Phelps
Using instinct or snap judgement is using past experience, thinking and dwelling over something is creating new experience.
By trying to avoid something going wrong will you also be stopping something that is already right?
Phelps
Sometimes we find a reason in an action as an excuse instead of actioning a reason
Phelps
People don't mind mastering what they're already good at. People can get good at things that are very straight forward/simple
Buying a book about the lottery for example.
The question is the most powerful thing a person has; you are dictating what a person thinks about!
You're heart is in it when you're there but your heart isn't in it very often to be there.
