There's only 4 arguments on the internet
1 my world (what I know and see)
2 'the' world ('facts')
3 equality (the game today)
4 equity (the game today, yesterday and tomorrow)
New addition to this in 2019
These are filtered by
1 the world how it is
2 the world how you think it ought to be
3 the world being not grasped
3 the world 'how it is' but it just ain't so
We're not looking for truth, we're looking to believe our own thoughts.
Phelps
We cannot hold a trouch to light another's path without brightening our own - Ben Sweetland
How many of us tell people what they should be doing when we don't do it ourselves... It's like saying 'use my light to see' but there's no light for either of you and you both go astray.
Get your own shit in order before trying to order others.
'Pay someone to tell you how to think so someone else can then pay you to regurgitate what you know.'
Phelps
When we talk about ‘boys do this’ and ‘girls are like that’ the PC police come in – and they’re right, but there’s some truth behind clichés and stereotypes sometimes… I think I’ve figured it out.
I think of evolution – Darwinism – we are how we are for a survival advantage. So some things exist because it does or at least it did have a good reason to exist. I think a lot of stereotypes or labels we put on genres, cultures, sexes ect are the ‘default’ almost the pre-set of your DNA – but the beauty of the human race is we can go against the default responses, we can choose to be different to what we ‘are’ or our natural responses, we are not fixed – but that means work, and many will take the path of least resistance which is ironically evolutionary to a degree.
Girls are self-conscious about beauty which would have had evolutionary reasons of being able to pick the best mates with the best genes to survive, and the ones who didn’t, their genes may have died off, but not all girls today are self-conscious about beauty, whether by design or by instinct because arguably the evolutionary reason isn’t important for survival anymore. That doesn’t mean the default setting switches off for most though…. Not in our life time’s anyway.
I decided pain doesn't always equal harm, sometimes enduring pain can be for your good.
Quote by haruki murakami: Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
You'll never not piss someone off with who you are and what you believe, so instead of figuring out who to please, maybe figure out who you'd rather piss off? I want to piss off people who want their own way with everything, I want to piss people off who exploit others for their gain, I want to piss others off who want to rob dreams and hopes of others, I want to piss people off who think it's OK to hurt others for their pleasure or wreck people's lives for a moment of hideous indulgence. I want to piss off the people who make the world a worse place for them being in it.
I wish politicians would focus on how they are "good" rather than why everyone else is "bad."
Sorry but it's democracy at work... It's our collective fault... We often vote against who we don't like rather than voting for who we do... It's said it's much easier for us to decide what we don't like rather than what we do. The theory of why is we take more notice of threats than friends (evolution). As the political parties have done more market research over the last 50 years, they're just responding to us and our behaviors, unfortunately with the amount of data mining on human behavior, it's now self perpetuating, un-evolved instincts continually poked by our modern genius... Surely humanity's most humble paradox.
Shake up the routine.
According to Sternberg, our interactions in close relationships tend to go along in well-worn grooves, called scripts. Most emotion is the result of some interruption of the script. Keep doing the same old thing, and you experience no emotion. But stop what you’ve always done, and, suddenly, someone feels. Sternberg says you can find out if a relationship is “live” by generating something unexpected, such as one of you going away o their own, or going on a vacation to a new place together. But sometimes it takes extreme action to realize how much intimacy there is, or was. Why not plan for occasional minor interruptions—so you don’t need a major one to wake you up?
