Business is dating

Sales is asking someone out on a date.

Marketing is the reason they say yes.

Branding is the reason it lasts.

You are not as kind as you think you are.

If your kindness doesn't give the person receiving kindness any agency, voice or respect... It's not kindness.

kindness fails when it's disrespectful.

Sometimes we're using kindness for only selfish reasons... maybe to prop up our own image in the eyes of ourselves or of the people around us. Maybe it's control, maybe to make people feel the way you want them to feel.

Like most things, it's the honest motives that help determine, but unfortunately this is one of the easiest categories to deny because no one can really call you out... it's super ambiguous.

How do you know if it's paranoia or instinct?

Where's the line between instinct and paranoia? Experience and questions on one side, fear and assumptions on the other.

Which bad feelings to ignore?

"A sense of discomfort is at times an accurate signal we need to pay close attention to, at other times it's a false alarm that we need to ignore."

Do you know which to ignore and which to take seriously? Many get it wrong.

Anger tells us something is wrong.

Not all anger should be suppressed,  not all anger should be hidden.

Why does everyone think they could be a better boss?

People love to have an opinion or the power to make a call which is why being a boss seems so appealing...  Free will right? Not really...  Because as a boss you need to have opinions on things which you don't care about,  aren't interested in,  and have to make calls which are big in nature when you don't feel like it.
There's no more or less free will having power, it's just what you do and don't have power over shifts.

While 'giving', are we really taking?

Why do you give?  Here's a test,  if you got no gratitude,  would you give? And if you got no thanks the first time,  would you do it again? And if you got insulted the second time (even though you knew it was the right thing to do) would you give again? And one more time knowing you'd never see the results of your generosity and having gained no extra power by giving...  Would you keep giving that way?

Bad Day, Just Because

Some days aren't very good, and sometimes there's no reason why they should be worse than any other day...  Why? Why do we need quantifiable events to make ourselves feel better about feeling bad? If there were no events to justify having a bad day,  then couldn't you argue that also events can't get you out of your bad day too? So what should you do? Ride it out? Talk about it? Avoid it? Or just abandon the day and start again tomorrow? Is there a chance something quantifiable has happened to make you have a bad day,  but it didn't register,  you didn't notice,  or it's a bigger deal to you than you give it credit for? I guess we need these days to help us not be complacent, keep us humble and reflective, to remind ourselves how good it feels to feel good.

Why we are angry with God?

We’ve long known that people can get angry at God but a 2013 study in Psychology of Religion andSpirituality (Grubbs, Exline, & Campbell, 2013) tells us who is most likely to do so. The authors found that anger at God was predicted by psychologicalentitlement—the belief that one deserves more than others. The authors argue that those feelings of deservingness lead to more intense perceptions of having been wronged when individuals don’t get what they want.

Good or bad all depends on me

Not including 'famous' or 'known to us but not known to them' people.

Someone is good based on what they have done for us,  what they are doing for us or what they could do for us

Someone is bad based on what they have done to us,  what they are doing to us or what they could do to us.

The success in failing

Challenging life.

"I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." — Michael Jordan

Good Cop Bad Cop

If you have a bag of weed in your car,  the police are your enemy...  If you are held hostage,  the police are your hero.

Good to Bad Shifting Scale

To have a high you need to have lows,  how do you know how high or low is if there is no point of difference...  Try having 3 cups of water,  cold,  room temp warm, hot.  If I dip my hand into the cold first,  the middle feels warm,  if I dip my hand into hot the middle then feels cool...  Oh relativity...  A blessing and a curse, you can make good things bad and bad good,  make good things great and bad things catastrophic it all just depends on how you look at it and relative to.
Nothing is ever just good or bad.

Both Good and Bad

If you don't think all you'll ever use is instinct...

Depending on who you are you could take that either way.

The Cycle of Greed (rise and fall)

Greed.  Greed can be the builder and the destroyer.  Think of someone with a good idea,  works hard,  is resourceful, takes time to develop the product and idea,  finely tunes and ultimately becomes a success...  This success gives them  more money and options which is then used to build up more and then to build on top of that...  They becomes more successful than was ever planned...  Where is the peak? At some point,  they realise maybe you could make more by cutting costs,  speeding up processes,  floating the company,  bringing in outsiders to diversify and reach wider audiences... Now there's not just expectations but targets that an accountant,  a lawyer and a stock broker start to enforce,  you have a bad week...  Oh no,  profits are down,  cut something from the budget,  investigate what happened,  create safety nets but can't spend any more money...  Cut costs,  move funding from the original projects and departments to stop legal proceedings,  satisfy the spread sheets,  cut more staff,  get fewer to do more,  simple maths right? Bad reviews,  people are complaining,  customers are leaving,  loyalty is down,  skepticism is up...  Share prices fall...  Panic...  Cut more costs to keep profits up,  product suffers, quality people no longer want to work there or be associated with your brand...  Hopes of less skilled cheaper workers with expensive consultants/managements become the plan...  It turns from practice to pure theory and numbers on a page,  why is the company still failing. There are only so many excuses investors will accept,  they leave in droves,  debts are piling up,  sell and sack and ship to keep a float... It sinks with nothing left but the thoughts that inspired,  maintained and destroyed it.

Know where to start,  know where to stop.