Under Attack? Or Friendly Fire?

There's a difference between being attacked/blamed for something and someone grieving aloud/expressing their frustration and anguish
S. Phelps

Therapy Explained In One Paragraph

We don't go to therapy because you are weak,  you go because you are strong.
What's the difference if you talk about it or not?
We vary rarely think in linear but to talk forces us to give the thought a beginning middle and an end. This makes as feel more control,  less fearful and makes the problem seem like less of a big deal because it is graspable. Imagine you see something in the dark,  it has a shape, a presence, it freaks you out - why does it freak you out? Because there are an infinite amount of possibilities including many threatening and dangerous possibilities... Turn the light on...  It's a cat. By shining a light on a million possibilities it sometimes becomes very obvious very quickly. Therapy shines a light on things inside your own mind, giving you a chance to see something that may not have been obvious before,  lost in the darkness of swirling thoughts and feelings...  The best thing is,  it's not the therapist that shines the light on these things,  but you,  they just help you find the light switch.

"Love is" You will never hear this said at a wedding.

June 1 2013

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Love is in a hurry, love is cruel. It is jealous, it always compares, it is selfish. It violates, it is attention-seeking, it is easily angered, it keeps record of wrongs. Love  delights in control, rejoices in manipulation and fueled by dependence. It gets abusive, always doubts, always worries, always hanging by a moment.Love fails. Love destroys Love panics, love is our captor.

Love reminds us of how imperfect we are, how out of control, how vulnerable and insecure we are.
Out of pain comes strength, out of suffering comes resilience, out of hardship comes growth. No one can escape loves clutches - it's what we all have in common, it's what unites us, makes us human... Makes us humanity.

My mind does all the work, not you.

When it comes to seduction, it seems one of the most potent forces is the allure of the unknown.

Every petal peeled off the rose while saying, "He loves me, he loves me not..." is a step closer to attraction.