Is why an important question all the time?

Suspend your need for understanding.

What if we had movement's to let things exist without the need for it to make sense?  If only for a little bit.

Dumb people outsmart smart people all the time

What's the best thing to do if you want to one up a smart person? Make them feel stupid. How do you do that? Not through logic but the nonsensical. They will try to decode the situation to something logical and go crazy trying.

Work, education, money, status - thought about investing in this?

Invest in relationships.

You should be grateful.

People put up with our shit all the time, if only we could be grateful, so why aren't we? Sometimes we don't have the awareness to notice and even if we do, we don't have the right feelings to drive us to gratitude.

Deny, deny, deny.

Denying a reality you don't like doesn't change the consequences of that reality.
Phelps

You are not as kind as you think you are.

If your kindness doesn't give the person receiving kindness any agency, voice or respect... It's not kindness.

kindness fails when it's disrespectful.

Sometimes we're using kindness for only selfish reasons... maybe to prop up our own image in the eyes of ourselves or of the people around us. Maybe it's control, maybe to make people feel the way you want them to feel.

Like most things, it's the honest motives that help determine, but unfortunately this is one of the easiest categories to deny because no one can really call you out... it's super ambiguous.

Why you do what you do when you don't know why you did what you did

Our 'animal' actions and reactions are shaped by our conscious and subconscious thoughts and cultural environments by either our design or by accident.