You should be grateful.

People put up with our shit all the time, if only we could be grateful, so why aren't we? Sometimes we don't have the awareness to notice and even if we do, we don't have the right feelings to drive us to gratitude.

Does 'communication' work?

If you approach a crucial conversation with a story and conclusion already in mind, there's no room for dialogue because your mind is already made up.

Make it about me if you want me to make it about you

"If you don't address my feelings, I won't listen to your facts"
– S J Phelps

"People can't give you what they don't have"

A couple of interesting quotes that got me thinking...

"People can't give you what they don't have"

How many times do we want something and want someone to give it to us when deep down we know they can't - like someone admitting they are wrong but they will never have the ability to see that,  or a mother wanting their child to be super grateful for the sacrifices she made,  but they'll never reach that realisation to the degree the mother wants, or the daughter wanting a close relationship to the astranged father when he's never had a healthy relationship in his life, or a woman who has been abused by a man and wants her partner to give back what she's lost...  Or maybe a husband wants his wife to understand him more, but she is who she is and would have to change who she is to understand or 'get him' more... Which leads me to an interesting second quote...
Antero Alli, an obscure author, wrote, “communication is only possible between equals"
Do you agree? I try to learn how to think dumber so I can communicate with 'dumb' people...This quote sums up what I am trying to do,  I was trying to be like the person I wanted to communicate with... Maybe that's why so few can communicate in a relationship, many seem unbalanced,  which we jokingly describe as 'who wears the pants' with that quote alone you are saying you are not equal,  one has power while the other follows... Maybe it's time to be equal,  and if you can't, try to be equal in the moment...

Inner world, outer world

What if you had no way of saying what you had to say,  or showing how you feel,  demonstrating your meaning or even having no way of letting others know you 'exist'

www.sbs.com.au/news/article/2014/10/14/it-was-being-buried-alive-what-its-have-locked-syndrome

Although this is the most extreme example,  I believe most of us in some way have trouble communicating ... And in the western world that my perspective comes from,  who ever articulates best is right...  But are they?  Just because someone is better at rationalization does that make them more right than the person that can't say what they're trying to say?

Beginners

The world I live in,  the people around me put a lot of pressure on themselves to just 'be good' but for most for most things,  it takes time and persistence to be good.

I want to take the thoughts out of my head and be good at summarising them and communicating them successfully to as many different types of people I can.

Was that a good start?

I'm just some guy who thinks a lot.