Be grateful you have something worth complaining about
Tuesday, 4 December 2018
Saturday, 17 November 2018
Clean a mind?
You know how we see others with 'problems' or things we think they're doing 'wrong' do we ever stop to think that they are already aware? There's some belief that 'if I told them, they would see and change and fix... maybe these people actually already know but they can't do anything about it or it's too hard. You know all those times you intended to clean a room or house or kitchen... if that's hard to clean a room when you should, how hard is to clean a mind?
Tuesday, 6 November 2018
Surviving politics
Political parties used to make their opponent the 'bad evil one' but now they make out something else to be the bad thing (that can't defend itself) which is also much easier to make sound like a horrifying monster, then blame the other side for not caring enough, not doing enough, not taking it seriously enough. This is fantastic when the monster is pretty close to what the other side believes or thinks is good, hitting them twice.
'survival bias' is strong with us. Please recognise most things aren't that bad, or if they are, why is there attention regarding it right now?
Monday, 15 October 2018
There's no such thing as white privilege, there is however legacy privilege
'White' is short hand for 'had a better past'.
Racism by definition is to classify or negatively assign traits from the collective regardless of if it applies to the individual.
When you talk about any privilege, you're saying 'because of your race, class you are where you are' that's not correct, because of your past you are in part where you are. And statistically men, and white have occupied what the western world would call 'success'.
The problem with this game everyone seems to be playing looking and gender and skin is it's a game no one can win...
Women need more rights to make up for man's dominance... ok, but if that's the game, then black people need more rights against the white woman...
Then trans people need more rights against black women
Then a disabled trans black woman needs more rights
And we haven't even touched on income, home life, personal history... you just can't do this and win, it's a 'race' to see who has it worse...
What if you're a white man (image in your head) but is an eastern European person coming from communist torturer crimes where his whole family was killed verses say Serena Williams?
If the argument, it's the collective and collateral damage to individuals is the price of over equality... That is actually exactly what communism is built on!
So what do we do then? Let white men rule and everyone suffer? God no, treat everyone the individuals they are, and if it's in your nature to try the equality path, go for it, but don't attach it to gender or skin colour for goodness sake, there are so many more measurable things which matter so much... we can start with our childhood where we were all once at the mercy of people much more powerful and made choices we had no say over.
Read this... it's a start to a fairer, equal and happy society by empathising with each other's burdens.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/driven-distraction/201802/how-people-beat-the-odds-after-rough-childhood?
Sunday, 14 October 2018
The opposite of love and fear is the opposite of what you think
People think the opposite of love is hate... It's not because in order to hate there must be some part which cares enough to hate. Hate is the antidote to love but not the opposite. The opposite to love is apathy.
If you agree with that line of thinking, what's the opposite of fear? It's not excitement, the body processes both this emotions very similarly.
I think the opposite of fear is boredom.
Something I'm going to think about more.
Tuesday, 18 September 2018
You're wrong anyway, so...
https://goo.gl/images/kZMgzL
Instead of trying to be what others think you should, get to know who you are, what is your identity? What do you stand for? What do you want?
Fuck fear
I'm pretty fed up with almost everyone in my life with their deep fear and high strung anxiety... and for what? Because you might slightly go backwards in comforts, affluence and status? I feel like I'm this outlier... I'm not afraid or alone, it's just really really strange... maybe my time will come but there's just so much unnecessary fear out there!
"There are more things to alarm us than to harm us, and we suffer more often in apprehension than reality."