Sick cycle carousel

I lied to be the victim, the truth would have been easier and everyone would be blameless and no ill effects would be felt,  is it revenge, is it something to do with my own sense of injustice and making the injustice obvious? And then, it all washes away,  the kind word, the patient gesture, the lovely manner...  Everything is fine again, injustice is just a dream until you sleep then wake again, how do you break the cycle? By first acknowledging there is a cycle

Is it instinct or paranoia?

"There's a very fine line between instinct and paranoia."
– S Phelps

Scared of Failing?

"The fear of failure is emotional vanity"

So you failed... So what?... So what!

James Dyson had an idea inventing a bagless vacuum cleaner. He failed 5126 times.
5127 was not a failure, and that's the result we know.

No one really cares if you fail, fail to ultimately succeed!

Make it about me if you want me to make it about you

"If you don't address my feelings, I won't listen to your facts"
– S J Phelps

My girl is all three

A beautiful woman delights the eye, a wise woman, the understanding, a pure one, the soul.
– Minna Antrim

Don't destroy your peace for entertainment

What separates “boring” from “peaceful”?

Do you destroy your peace when really what you're trying to do is eradicate your boredom?

Break up the routine, here's why.

Shake up the routine.

According to Sternberg, our interactions in close relationships tend to go along in well-worn grooves, called scripts. Most emotion is the result of some interruption of the script. Keep doing the same old thing, and you experience no emotion. But stop what you’ve always done, and, suddenly, someone feels. Sternberg says you can find out if a relationship is “live” by generating something unexpected, such as one of you going away o their own, or going on a vacation to a new place together. But sometimes it takes extreme action to realize how much intimacy there is, or was. Why not plan for occasional minor interruptions—so you don’t need a major one to wake you up?

Secret society of the wise

William Scott Downey once wrote: “To keep your own secrets is wisdom; but to expect others to keep them is folly.”

Armchair Critics

It's easy to give criticism, much harder to give solutions that actually work.