Authentic is the wrong word and sending us down the wrong path.
What we want from others and our entertainers are; giving full attention to the moment. Nothing else matters. The person or entertainer may not feel like doing it before hand but deciding to show up and put on a show is much better than authentically showing their true feelings any day.
At some point everyone has the desire to 'take' deeper meaningful connections, but not all are willing to 'give'.
Ask yourself, can you really afford what you want?
The only true way to change someone's mind is with a truth (to them)
bigger then the truth being contested.
"I'm a Russian native and we don't smile because back home it is considered fake to smile just for the sake of being polite / to please others / to look good etc. In our culture, you smile only when you truly are having a very happy moment. In Russia, "American smile" is another word to define a fake smile, the one you put on your face no matter how you truly feel at that moment. This is just one of those "cultural differences" that take time to get used to."
Shake up the routine.
According to Sternberg, our interactions in close relationships tend to go along in well-worn grooves, called scripts. Most emotion is the result of some interruption of the script. Keep doing the same old thing, and you experience no emotion. But stop what you’ve always done, and, suddenly, someone feels. Sternberg says you can find out if a relationship is “live” by generating something unexpected, such as one of you going away o their own, or going on a vacation to a new place together. But sometimes it takes extreme action to realize how much intimacy there is, or was. Why not plan for occasional minor interruptions—so you don’t need a major one to wake you up?
