I just wondered, if there are any verbs for lazy people...
Think about it...
When someone attacks the process instead of the substance of an argument, you know you are in the right, or at least more right than the attacker.
Next level - when someone attacks instead of holds their position, it means you're probably on the correct path.
Next level again - when the attacker asks all the questions, difficult questions which may or may not be related. Questions are powerful, they control the situation. The more words the defender has to say against these kind of attacking questions, the more guilty the defender seem.
We remember feelings, vibes and the 'spirit' of prior events, but it's really difficult to remember and hold onto details. That's why it seems like we're just throwing out wild accusations when trying to communicate with someone an issue from the past without 'hard evidence'.
Figure out the problem the fastest by asking this question...
"What would you like me to be sorry about?"
What's the point?
The point is the point.
How often do we just do, always ask yourself, what is the actual point of this? What's this things objective? Why do this? What's that outcome which got this going?
What's the point?
Don't forget the point of something.
Instead of saying 'I like your earrings', say 'those are cool hoop earrings'.
It's less about her and her choice (a comment on her) and more about 'it' and it's value (a comment on something you have in common - both thinking it's cool enough to wear and cool enough to comment).