The best emotion for drive?

Passion is no match against fear.

Been hurt by someone lately?

Take a breath and acknowledge that 95% of what someone else does has absolutely nothing to do with you. Yes--even if you feel that they've talked about you, misused you or done you other wrongs, still their main concern isnot you. It's them. Trust this: realizing that other people with no "investment" in you also have no "interest" in you--and that their activity probably has nothing to do with you--is a big part of forgiving and being less paranoid. So spend extra time with this one idea:"Convince yourself that the other person is pretty ignorant when it comes to you and your feelings--and so, you need not worry about them!"

Hurting People Hurt People

If someone is mean to us, we take it personally,  but what if you knew that someone had just lost a loved one like a spouse or a parent? Do we still take it personally,  or do we rationalise that their pain is being transfered onto us? There's a good chance that most mean deeds spring from outside pain and unresolved feelings.
Hurting people hurt people. Try not to take it personally, otherwise you'll be hurting too and may pass that on.

Hurting people hurt people, hateful people hurt even more

NO JAIL TIME FOR 'SMALL TIME' DRUG DEALER

http://www.northerndailyleader.com.au/story/3201504/no-jail-for-small-scale-drug-dealer/?cs=157

One of my 'friends' posted a comment to this (above) article - here is the comment she made full:

Absolute bullshit you do the crime you should do the time I dont have any sympathy or time for anyone who sells or does drugs put the bitch in jail fuck her she deserves to rot in jail no matter how much she supplied dealed


Let's stop and think for a second... the first part is an expression over her emotion and dissatisfaction of the situation - fair enough - clearly it violates her identity on some level... but the next part...
"put the bitch in jail fuck her she deserves to rot in jail no matter how much she supplied dealed [sic]"

I translate that to meaning - 'regardless of the degree of your crime, i want you to die in jail, and not just that I want you to die, but you deserve to die regardless of the degree of crime'

Hurting people hurt people, hateful people hurt even more people! Lets say selling drugs are hurting people (that's a whole other topic for another day drugs vs anything else we use to escape reality and alter our minds) does it really help saying 'kill them'? does anyone want to know why she ended up dealing in the first place? Was she abused as a child, was she raped as a girl, was she outcast from society as a women because she lacked 'paper smarts' was she discriminated against because of her race, or social economic position, did she have a child early in life.... or does any of that not matter? should she "rot in jail regardless". And if a judge, a lawyer or doctor do drugs and 'deal' (providing to other friends colleagues) should they too rot in jail? or somehow because they've got there 'life together' on they outside they should somehow be spared? That's class discrimination if you answered in the affirmative.

Hurting people hurt people, hateful people hurt even more people! Do you make the world a better place by hating on the people that hurt it?

The Pain of Feeling Like We Don't Matter

I believe that for us as humans everything stems from identity,  and the core component of that is feeling like we matter...  Anything that makes us feel like we don't matter hurts us in deep and profound ways.
The sad thing is most people's actions that make you feel like you don't matter are often a reflection on them,  not a reflection on you, we take it personally. How can you not? There was a great example in a book called 'walking on egg shells'and the example went something like this:
A bride chooses a church to get married in. A day before the wedding lightening strikes the church and it burns to the ground...  It is too late to find another venue. Naturally the Bride is very angry,  but she doesn't take it personally...  It's not like the lightening deliberately and intentionally was out to hurt the bride.

So much pain in life we take personally,  if we can try to understand pain is all around us and the people that love us rarely and truly don't want to hurt us,  but understand that they will... And when they do,  try to understand it's not about you,  it's probably more likely it's about them and their problems, pasts and mistakes.