This explains every argument ever had

What's going on when people fight, argue and disagree? I've noticed for years how many people are both right in an argument... how is that possible, how can we all be fighting over the same thing and yet all be right?
Or flip it around, the same people who could be both right are also both wrong... How can this be?

Because our fight is governed and justified by the parameters we set out for ourselves.

Here are those parameters.

There are only two platforms of communication:

1 Discussion
2 Debate

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These are filtered through four 'according to you' belief systems:

1 The world how it is (objectively)
2 The world how you think it ought to be
3 The world not being understood
4 The world 'how it is' but it just ain't so (perception ignoring objective reality).

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All arguments topics come down to these four categories:

1 My world (what I know and see)
2 'The' world ('facts')
3 Equality (the game today)
4 Equity (the game today, yesterday and tomorrow)

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These are personalised by three main feelings:

1 Why can't you be more like me?
2 Why can't you be more like what I understand?
3 Why can't you understand my pain?

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All motivations stem back to a deep original source...

1 Survival (including resources, status quo and power)

And/or

2 Legacy (including extra resources sex, extra power and purpose)

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How to protect yourself from mental attacks.

The hostility towards someone else stems from fear. Defending yourself won't work,  making them feel better may not and definitely won't in the long term. It's an individual security issue and they are trying to control the situation and make that fear go away.  Learn to be brave,  and learn to spot someone who isn't.  When you learn to do that, you will not take attacks as personal and prevent unconscious attacks on others.

The most famous un-famous person in history? You.

We sit and wait as so many others are! You wish for a letter,  you wish for a gift,  or a big gesture,  a moment where no one else matters but you,  a fantasy of being unconditionally loved,  praised,  honoured,  maybe even worshiped for a moment....   You have the power to do this to someone... Write a letter,  personalise a gift,  say a kind word,  dedicate some uninterrupted time... that's very powerful,  and can be used as a tool to empower the lonely,  the sick,  the frightened, the enslaved,  the belittled, this power of words,  power of gifts,  power of time...  We can all change the world...  The smallest deed can send ripples though history

A story...
I was selling flowers at the market a few days ag and the stall next to use was a father and daughter selling honey...  I had lots of discussions during down time... The little girl Eloisa (12-14 maybe) taught me lots about bees...  Anyway at the end of the day I stole a long stem red rose from our pile and thanked her, hoping she'd feel special... As I walked away I imaged the future for her life and choices that I'll never see...  That moment could change the choice she makes about a douche guy that treats her like shit but instead respects herself and has value and says no, which gives her the space to chase her dreams and meets other like minded people who unite and cure cancer,  cease world hunger, bring peace to humanity...  That's life changing...  Or it was just a flower and gets thrown away after I leave, the end...  Ill never know, but it's now a possibility...  We all have the power to change the world...  that's the exciting/terrifying thing about life.

Controlling Mind Games

Normal people doing their best and making normal mistakes.
It's said that modern education and learning techniques discourage and punish mistakes,  so we instinctively avid things that we might get wrong... 

Ever had that person in your life that is always on your back or criticising you? No matter how much you do right,  they'll make a big deal about that one tiny mistake.

Is there a chance they don't want us to get it right? They aren't over critical,  they are looking for your flaws and failures,  they could be deliberately setting you up for failure...  We all want to be praised and accepted so often we work harder to please the person who cannot be pleased. Maybe we should ask ourselves what these people's motives are...  And if it's not about the spirit of or the ethic of,  then chances are its not the mistakes that are the problem...  To them, you are the problem!

They are the one with the problem,  not you. Its their problem, not yours and don't let it be, don't let yourself play their games...  Stop trying to get it right for them,  because in their eyes you probably never will.