My feelings connected to your actions

Change the action of someone will change the feeling,  but what if we could change our action to change the feeling,  wouldn't you get the same result? So why do we want to change other things in people to change our feeling when there is other ways?

The formula for success

A bit of luck
A bit of skill
A bit of time
A bit of work
A bit of money
A bit of connections
A bit of timing
A bit of wisdom

What to do when life throws up problems

"When a challenge arises either play the game, change the game or don't play."
S. Phelps

The smart paradox

If you need validation from test results to confirm you're smart,  you're probably not as smart as the results suggest.

Want more control over people? Don't do this!

Don't try and read minds - it can't be done!

Why are you so tried when you 'shouldn't' be?

Mental fatigue comes from making decisions,  the more you make,  the more tired you will be.

Why do old vote consecutive and young liberal?

Because older people have more to lose and would rather keep what they have than risk while young have nothing to lose,  everything to gain and a long future of possibilities.

Why are lies believed?

A simple lie is more believable than a complicated truth.
S Phelps

Pain, good or bad?

We avoid pain unless we benefit.
S Phelps

Why you avoid your deep issues

Nothing fixes a thing so intensely in the memory as the wish to forget it.
- Michel de Montaigne 

It's very easy to forget why people try to forget things,  avoid,  deny,  refuse weighted importance, dismiss acknowledgement... It's hard work fixing something when you can just ignore it and hope it goes way...  Problems not related to our identity or sense of self often go away over time on their own,  however things that are intertwined with who we are or shaped what we are will never go away unless you take action that works (trying without a direction means nothing)

Before you judge someone for not 'fixing' their problem,  did you clean your room or your house when you said you would? Did you achieve your exercise goal or new year's resolution yet? 'fixing' or making something better is hard and it's a lot harder to clean a mind than it is to clean your house.

Wanna be successful? Here's how!

Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, or Friends: Pick 3

You can have it all. Just not all at the same time.