Why we can't explain what we choose?

Choices are split into two categories - Reasoning system / automatic system
Choice blindness is when you made a choice but don't know why because you didn't think about it in the moment,  like why you stepped on that part of the footpath, why you ate that type of food - unaware of why you made the choice - when asked you'll be justifying only, rather then recalling why because you never thought about it in the moment. This is why we make mistakes and have no idea why we did it - bosses should learn this psychology lol the only way to cause less mistakes is for people to think more before making choices.

It Is Always OK To Question... ALWAYS!

"If you have to choose between me and someone else, pick them. I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is going to question if they made the right choice."

I read this in a picture quote from a site called Iheartintelligence

Question everything you read,  don't let the picture, quote, or reputation of something fool and mislead you.

My response to this quote.

I don't want to be with someone who doesn't think independently and question life long commitments, nothing is ever that good or that perfect to warrent never questioning!

To doubt is to be human,  to be afraid is to be human, to assess and weigh up is to be human, to question is what makes us human! In the history of humans communicating with primates, they answer our questions,  but they have never asked us a question.

I think the formal theory of why primates don't ask questions has something to do with, there is nothing to question because they aren't aware there is the possibility of more to the world beyond what they already know.

Why we don't let ourselves be happy!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201507/5-reasons-we-dont-let-ourselves-be-happy

I'm going to throw out some of my favorite lines which can really make people think...
Most people would rather be unhappy than uncertain...  That's a big one because there's risks in doing things differently in order to be happier.
Another is we usually know how we DON'T want to feel rather than how we do... Meaning we ficus on avoiding rather than obtaining.
I agree with the points, there's a lot of identity tired up in not being happy,  or not wanting to do things that would go against your identity to obtain it.
For me, everything comes down to 2 motives for humanity - survival and legacy...  Every action and motive can be stemmed back to those...  Doing things that are hard/unfamiliar cause anxiety, this sparks the body into survival mode which is associated with fear, fear means you are in danger which challenges survival thus the likelihood of death!!!!!

And sometimes...  Just sometimes,  some people don't feel right,  unless they feel wrong.

I know what I don't want to feel like!

We may not know how we want to feel, but often we do know how we don't want to feel! Maybe that's why we don't chase love and happiness,  maybe that's why we are scared and have fear of failure or rejection, maybe it's easier to know what we don't want to feel so we act on what we know,  many would rather be unhappy than uncertain

Emotional Travel

If I'm here,  and your there,  who travels to whom?  And if you are to 'meet halfway' can it be argued we are now nowhere? Or will nowhere become somewhere?

The Truth About The Lie

If we can't understand the truth,  but can understand a lie, and because we punish someone more because we don't understand and reward them more when we do understand - is it no wonder we lie? And if the truth comes out,  it becomes a double punishment,  not understanding in the first place and not understanding why they lied to cover up what they don't understand - mind overloaded!

Are We Ever Wrong?

Something to think about...

http://www.nova1069.com.au/best-web/why-everyone-should-have-dash-cam

Does she believe she's in the right,  if so how did she come to that decision? Or on some level she's lying to herself but believes her own lies? Or simple denial, wishing it to not be, (or is that lying?) Or is it as simple as the belief everyone else is the reason bad things happen to her and she's just adopted this aproch for all areas of her life? Is there another option?