The face

I've been finding the strangest inspiration recently... I lack motivation for so many things, waiting for a feeling to 'feel' like doing a task... lately I've been imagining the person's face I'm doing this task for and it's really helping! ! ! There's not even happy or anger on the faces, just the face, it makes me feel, something like empathy, kindness and compassion, it's really helping me get things done.

The mono problem of non monogamy

I love vox, they've just released a Netflix series and this first episode was about how unnatural it is to be monogamous... here's the video

https://youtu.be/DCGyLjBjuGI

I Love it, I think there's excellent points except one thing wasn't addressed... if it's so natural to not be monogamous... why is it people get so hurt and offended when the other partner does a non monogamous act?  Why does it trigger THE strongest emotion I've ever seen in people (*cough* Jerry Springer)? If something is natural, our feelings line up with our desires, and that doesn't happen with the majority of the population.

Had a few comments saying it's the childhood conditionings, social standards, pop culture etc.... My thoughts back.

Yeah great points and you're right, they do touch on at the start of the piece. 'Social conditioning' explains why someone feels bad when they 'cheat' or that guilt stops them, but as they said statistically it doesn't actually stop people from doing it, what I'm observing that nearly 100% of people don't like being cheated on... think about it, if one in 5 were in non monogamous relationships, wouldn't they be understanding back? Sex and 'love' (desire) always finds a way despite social conditioning, it just goes underground...
And if you're doubling down on 'but early in childhood we're shown this is what it is' we rebel against 20% of what we're conditioned to, and then we grow up and make our own choices and sometimes question feelings and go against those despite the fears. In fact there's many social circles who would not condemn you for not being monogamous.... it's harder being trans than it is to not be monogamous... And yet, we like the idea of us being free, but don't like the idea of our partner being the same to the point most would break up or end the relationship... That's so powerful!  It's not all surely inspired by a few fairytales and 'what society does and expects'.

I forgot to remember I forget

Friend posted this comment...

“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.”

My response
I agree... Observation though... I've been keeping a blog (this one) for [nearly] 4 years, on average 4 posts a month, basically it tracks what's important to me at the time, observations, thoughts, theories... It's amazing how much of it I forget, it's amazing how something which was important eventually becomes a distant memory, so I don't think all ideas stay 'stretched' some inevitably go back to how it was before thinking about it... and I'd never have realised this if I didn't experiment on myself.

I forgot to remember I forget

Responses

The information may become memory; which is a more peaceful way to exist; though the stretching of the mind is done at the point of learning; altering the minds original trajectory. Or dimension as that quote put it.

Your mind has expanded significantly in the past 4 years.

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It sure has, and that's evident with the documentation... It's original purpose was to practice articulating and dividing complex thoughts and theories ... I did get better but I'm still a bit wordy... One day I'll have those light bulb one liners like the one which inspired this chat

Why do we put so much effort into unworthwhile things?

'Are you good at this?' ends up being a much stronger force than 'is this worth doing?'

The loss of pain and the loss of pleasure

Getting used to something is humanities biggest blessing and biggest curse.

Is the past really the past you remember?

Feelings have a way of fooling the present of the past