I love vox, they've just released a Netflix series and this first episode was about how unnatural it is to be monogamous... here's the video
https://youtu.be/DCGyLjBjuGI
I Love it, I think there's excellent points except one thing wasn't addressed... if it's so natural to not be monogamous... why is it people get so hurt and offended when the other partner does a non monogamous act? Why does it trigger THE strongest emotion I've ever seen in people (*cough* Jerry Springer)? If something is natural, our feelings line up with our desires, and that doesn't happen with the majority of the population.
Had a few comments saying it's the childhood conditionings, social standards, pop culture etc.... My thoughts back.
Yeah great points and you're right, they do touch on at the start of the piece. 'Social conditioning' explains why someone feels bad when they 'cheat' or that guilt stops them, but as they said statistically it doesn't actually stop people from doing it, what I'm observing that nearly 100% of people don't like being cheated on... think about it, if one in 5 were in non monogamous relationships, wouldn't they be understanding back? Sex and 'love' (desire) always finds a way despite social conditioning, it just goes underground...
And if you're doubling down on 'but early in childhood we're shown this is what it is' we rebel against 20% of what we're conditioned to, and then we grow up and make our own choices and sometimes question feelings and go against those despite the fears. In fact there's many social circles who would not condemn you for not being monogamous.... it's harder being trans than it is to not be monogamous... And yet, we like the idea of us being free, but don't like the idea of our partner being the same to the point most would break up or end the relationship... That's so powerful! It's not all surely inspired by a few fairytales and 'what society does and expects'.
