How can you tell if someone really knows what they’re talking about?

 Ask them what they “don’t know” about the subject. If they are as enthusiastic as they were telling you what they do know, you’ve got someone who can see enough to know what they can’t see yet.

You want something better than authenticity

Authentic is the wrong word and sending us down the wrong path.

What we want from others and our entertainers are; giving full attention to the moment. Nothing else matters. The person or entertainer may not feel like doing it before hand but deciding to show up and put on a show is much better than authentically showing their true feelings any day.

Change changes everything in unexpected ways

 When you ask someone to change, be careful. Usually you’re asking them to be more or do more. If they did succeed in changing to what you wanted, what then? More change? What happens when that succeeds? You and that person are now drifting away because in part you’re asking them to change so you don’t have to, you’re asking them to do more so you don’t have to do more. The divide gets larger. If this person really is doing all this changing and you’re not, aren’t you weirdly less now? Aren’t you falling behind? Aren’t you the stagnant one not capable of change? All the reasons you gave to that person in the first place to justify change, you are now yourself. 

Ok so maybe you think they were far behind your standards and now they’re about level. They’ll still have resentment or even contempt because they have movement, they are “better” or “more” than they were Yesterday, where are you at? The same. You can’t win unless it’s a journey together, you can’t get what you want unless you share the burden, different things perhaps but equal energy, equal struggle, equal hope and equal ownership. It doesn’t have to be equal in real terms it just has to be an attempt.

Stop asking people to change unless you ask in the same breath, “does this outcome interest you? what can i do for you? What can i trade with you? What can i do to help you? 

What’s your future life look like?

 The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.

How do you know if someone knows what they’re talking about?

 The ultimate test if someone knows what they’re talking about.

How much time have the spent on that specific subject or at least thinking about it and what do they know they don’t know.

Mastery is about knowing what you don’t know.

Dick you

 If something takes longer than 30 seconds to start a process, you probably won’t start the process.

Fuck you Apple for putting frictions in place for things you don’t want us to do ie stuff that doesn’t benefit you.

Be

Be sincere, be brief, be seated