Fear is rude
I suggest that fear is rude. Think about it. If someone is communicating with you or engaging with you at a place of concern, anxiety, fear, all of the words and all of the framing of the words is from a place of, of, I think you mean me harm, but I couldn't be bothered or don't have the ability to even understand that you're probably not going to cause a series of events that would actually manifest the kinds of fears I'm worried about and concerned about. There's something there isn't there? This is an incomplete thought. It's just something that I'm thinking about at the moment where there's just something mildly offensive about people know you so little or care about you so little that their fears and concerns are the only thing that matters and that we can't possibly be responsible in figuring things out on ourselves. Does that not sound really rude to you? But it's hidden behind this veneer of I'm only checking and making sure. Well why don't you constantly check and make sure about your car or your house structure or the food that you eat? If you constantly were second guessing those things, people would start to think you're crazy. But for some reason, whether it's some sort of benign situation or activity that just, that can't really go bad, they're actually insulting you because they're saying "my world is so much more important than you that I don't even think you're capable of just getting normal results, I assume you will do bad for me".