You're so smart until this happens...

Intellectually, some people are very brave until they have skin in the game, then they fall into line. IE Talk big until it might cost them.

You forgot what you're actually fighting for

 Why don't we encourage flourishing and happiness instead of "equality" "equity" or any other buzz words that has a built in metric.

I've said this for a while - how do you know when you've "made it" how do you know when you've arrived". Arbitrary numbers don't mean anything, it's Goodhearts law - when a measure becomes a target it ceases to be a good measure. What's really happening is things "feel" unfair and the belief is by aiming for these numbers you'll then feel like it's fair. The feeling is not arriving. Negative emotions are 4-5 times more powerful than positive so you'll always notice what's wrong more than celebrating what's right or how far you've come.

Extra I just added by dictation

By encouraging the aim to be flourishing and happiness, we can ask ourselves and others: do I genuinely believe these actions are getting me closer to those goals, or further away from them? Because to me, it seems like it’s more of a groupthink rallying cry: “Oh, there’s only 40% women representation here. We need to do 50%.” Who’s happier for that? Who’s flourishing more for that, and why? Why is that so important?

It’s gotten to the point where people feel like it’s almost self-evident, like the argument itself is the argument. It’s not. Maybe the original argument was that it was about a diversity of thought—that women bring certain perspectives, thoughts, understandings, and nuances to situations that men might not. Which is ironic because there seems to be tribalism around a certain way of thinking and culture. And if you don’t adhere to that, then you’re not welcome, which actually defeats the entire purpose of why we started this in the first place.

If people keep getting hired based on their gender, it’s actually more likely they’ll be hired based on who aligns with the values of the people hiring, which also breaks the original reason for trying to get more women into a particular place. And I’m not sure why the reverse isn’t seen as true. If the original argument is about diverse thoughts, opinions, and perspectives, why are there so many fields dominated by women that no one seems to care about?

You would think that in a teaching profession, which is heavily weighted towards women, especially in younger grades, society would drastically encourage men to enter the field. It would provide those differing ways of seeing the world, thinking, and offering perspectives that allow children to have a balanced approach. You could argue that’s way more important than so many other white-collar jobs that, arguably, might not matter as much.

And so, I think it’s just become a bit like a religion: “This is just what we do. This is what the tribe does. This is what I’m fighting for.” We’ve forgotten why we started doing it in the first place, which then cancels out the real reasons, turning it into just a target. And as Goodhart’s Law states, it’s not going to end well.

I like to use this example: when KPIs were put on surgeons to measure the success of surgeries—how many successful surgeries occurred compared to how many failed or resulted in a patient’s death—that seemed like a good thing to measure. It seemed like a good standard to work towards. But here’s the problem: more people died because surgeons started taking on fewer risky surgeries to avoid negatively affecting their KPIs. So more people died because they weren’t getting the surgeries they needed.

That’s a great example of how, when you start missing the point—when you start focusing on a very narrow, specific goal that was originally only meant to measure and help understand a situation rather than become the situation—you lose sight of the bigger picture.

Dr K

 Dr K DOAC amazing!

So so so good especially the end!

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-diary-of-a-ceo-with-steven-bartlett/id1291423644?i=1000678603603

Unforgiving negot

 Negotiate the unforgiving

A relationship with the unforgiving

You can't fudge something that isn't fudgable.

Example- hiking and half way they say I'm tired I want to go home. But they'll need to spend the same amount of effort getting home. You have to negotiate the unforgiving.

You can slow time down... Counterintuitive solution

What can you do today to make the day memorable?

Worrying is a tiring love language

 Dutch watchmaker and writer Corrie Ten Boom on worry:

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

What is truth? There isn't much

 What is truth? There's like this black hole where you can just keep going down and down. 

Best example ever of this https://youtu.be/bgo7rm5Maqg?si=Pu6B9RSA9sXiowzO

Maybe what matters more than the truth is doesn't it matter if it's wrong does it matter if it's right and can you lightly hold a questioned or light truth?

Truth is a means, not an end.