Your problem has already been solved...

W. Edwards Deming,

 “If you have a problem, the chances are excellent that it has been solved by someone, somewhere, sometime, and that the solution is out there waiting for you to find it.”

Is it really a mess?

 It's not mess, it's organised chaos.

When do you know which is which? There's order within including emotions despite the look on the outside or to others.

They will kill you - UPFs

I stopped eating food that is engineered to be consumed to excess.

UPF (Ultra Processed Food) is gaslighting our bodies.

It's not food, it's an industrially produced edible substance.

Letting children decide their discipline?

 "She knew what she needed in order to feel better"

Letting it's choose their own consequences for undesirable actions - letting them own it.

Something interesting to read

https://www.romper.com/p/i-let-my-daughter-choose-her-own-consequences-for-a-week-heres-what-happened-5832

Attacked from all sides? Centrist one liners

Left leaning? Right leaning? Just different? Neither? Both?

How do you know you're in the centre? Both sides hate you equally.

Here's my catch all moments

1. Zero sum ideology

2. 5 donkeys

3. I believe in your God, I won't go to your church

4. Comparing our best to their worst divides us more

5. This is my hypothesis...

1. When people start to defend or attack the otherside in absolutes with disregard of balance and neuance.

"Zero sum ideology"

Just repeat. No one is changing their minds today.

2. When people criticise you for doing or not doing something

"5 donkeys"

Just repeat. No one will know what it means but they also don't care, it's for me. No one is changing their minds today. The 5 donkeys is actually 4 where a card of 4 different scenarios. The 5th was added as an absurdity people carrying the donkey trying to follow the previous 4 criticisms. It's attached or search 4 donkeys judging people.

3. When you agree with the sentiment, purpose or just the general idea but completely against things like ideals, execution, motivation or emotions.

"I believe in your God, I won't go to your church"

Repeat for my sake even if they don't get it.

4. "Comparing our best to their worst divides us more"

It's a way of supporting the side I'm talking to and even their argument (I'm on their side) but I'm disapproving of their self righteous attitude (holier than thou).

5. When stating either an opinion or what you believe to be fact, start it with "this is my hypothesis". That makes the rest more credible ironically, you don't have to prove it to be true and you're not saying you're correct because you're allowed to start somewhere with thoughts and that's what the following is...

You may be in the right, but...

 Anger separates

Power is hiding behind cancel

 If you want to know where real power lies in a community - who can't you criticise? What conversation can't you have and who decided that?