The thing that bothers me about household chores is that they’re often driven by emotion rather than necessity. One person “feels like” something needs to be done - whether out of disgust, shame, judgment, or anxiety about control - and then gets frustrated when the other person doesn’t share the same urgency. But the proof that it’s not actually self-evident is that if you ask them to do it first, or to do more, they often don’t feel like it either.
That’s why people who aren’t emotionally driven to do these tasks deserve appreciation—because they’re changing their behaviour to accommodate someone else’s feelings, not because the task is inherently urgent.
