Own misery - what?

 In what way do I contribute to my own misery?

This is why you lie to yourself

 The truth defines how we live.

If we believe lies, it changes how we live.

If we change how we live, who we are changes.

If who we are changes we are not the same person.

This is who we are now.

Those lies now need to hold form for the rest of our lives otherwise - one day - we realise we've been living a lie.

Maybe that's why we lie to ourselves to keep ourselves.

The past was unfair, so let's make it fair by being unfair in a different way

 2.50 mins in.

What is fair? Amazing observation of where we are leaning

https://youtu.be/_Wp75JORNHA?si=NsvUzIq4Lh9BvAo6

The past was unfair, so let's make it fair by being unfair in a different way

You shithead, we are flies on giants

 https://youtu.be/pj0ze8GnBKA?si=fOV7Ylf8H5Q9kXub

Don't need friends, you need...

 Mutual forward motion.

The punishment question

 

What do you think should happen to the person who did this?

(Check the leniency levels over time)

https://youtube.com/shorts/XbWCcJ6qLlA?si=-xXInyJBo8aqtF5x

Joe Rogan interview technique

 Less questions

https://youtube.com/shorts/7_3HLzYidT0?si=KSVoNWw5pqDZotYw

Butwhaddabout

 "But what about...."

I'm not erasing the exceptions, I'm simply refusing to let exceptions dictate the whole conversation.

If we only ever frame truth around the minority case, we are no longer allowed to address the suffering of the majority.

Bend reality with words?

 Biology doesn't bow to ideology

Aye Aye writing

 The signs of AI writing

https://youtube.com/shorts/34BmRpsDTh0?si=dc_B5levdUizAcgG

Angry, angry ang-gry

 Triage your outage

A creativity insight

 Creativity is just an insight dolled up.

A Superpower you're not using

We can all be a hero, your calling? Remaining kind in the cruel world.

Because: No life and no accomplishments

Life gets in the way of it or it gets in the way of life.

If you try to have both at the same time, you get neither.

The thinking bone of do

 Theory doesn't get into your bones.

Theory is so good for your head, and maybe even your heart. BUT there's something about doing the thing, extras seep into your bones too. Embodied.

I heard recently, in theory, theory is as good as practice. In practice it's not.

Doesn't feel right, but what if it is right?

Because of the culture we're in and how everything is about sensation, I think we only think something's working if it makes us feel something.

The solution to your problem is right there!

 "Traditions are solutions to problems we've forgotten about because 'the tradition' made the problem go away."

Pride. Shame.

How often you feel shame vs how often you feel pride

Fake pride doesn't fix real shame.

Real or fake? I don't care

 I don't care if this is real or fake, it's one hell of a framing of humanity.

https://youtube.com/shorts/UBxKjBXlJPU?si=LT2Q26tQDh4hbDbA

Equity flaws

 I used to love that picture

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1FhNu5uHi7/?mibextid=wwXIfr

People are not only imperfect but when the methodical lights go out we can get greedy, dark, controlling. In a beautiful world we'd share everything but people will gladly receive but not give back, hoarding wealth, power and status.

Here's the reality about equity, it's usually someone being generous with other people's money or opportunities. When it's their own money and opportunities on the line - NIMBY

Even in this example they haven't paid for the game they're watching. It's easy for the tall dude  to give to the little dude because it costs nothing.

Value doesn't fall out of the sky, people work hard everywhere around the world and have since mankind begin. Start by giving what you have first before telling people to give up what they have.

If you're greedy with little things why should everyone else be generous with big things?

I wish this weren't so, and plenty of people are beautiful and can be trusted. Many also can't.

Explosive happy accidents

 https://youtube.com/shorts/Dp4cbD4IOgA?si=hOnE7h2g9Ww0zg8O

The AI motives are wrong

 

I think when people use anything "AI" for a greed motive, the results are bad, everyone loses.

When people use anything AI to enhance the process of serving, the results can be spectator.

Change the frame, feel the change.

Quirky ends Cult starts

Quirky ends Cult starts

Won't let you leave with your dignity intact.

It's a pretend choice to stay when there's a heavy cost to leave.

The knife on your life

Men harm themselves more than they harm everyone.

Not my work, from https://open.substack.com/pub/putourchildrenfirst/p/the-mental-health-double-standard?r=6g1jv&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

if it is the female exhibiting BPD? It is then characterised as an illness, and she is really a victim of this illness. In fact, it is not uncommon for articles and media reporting to refer to the stigma of BPD.

Indeed, some excuses for female BPD border on the ridiculous. ““The idea that they're actually manipulating is actually quite incorrect if you look at it cognitively speaking," one expert said. "What they're trying to do is get their needs met and also unburden themselves of this emotional distress which gets locked inside them. So if it's a significant other, they'll do anything, they'll try anything, to try and relieve this distress.”” Interpretation: sure they are manipulative, but, you know, for really good reasons!

The actions of men with BPD are rarely similarly excused (SOURCE). When men display exactly the same behaviours, for exactly the same reason - BPD - it's never called, “mental illness”.

No, its name is then “coercive control”.

If you think I’m exaggerating, read THISarticle about Michael Slater, a well-known former Australian cricketer and commentator. His behaviour fits all the manipulative elements of BPD, because he was diagnosed with BPD.

Yes, many men have significant mental health issues. It’s why they commit suicide and harm themselves far more than they harm anyone else. But when a mentally ill man hurts himself, it's ignored. However, when a mentally ill man hurts those close to him, as mental health sufferers invariably do, it's “toxic masculinity”.

Do you mean, mean?

I'm not being mean, I'm being human. And as humans we either fight or unite

Good despite flaws

 “Good, despite flaws”

Since when did flaws make good bad? It’s not bad it’s just inconvenient deal with flaws.

Weaponize good?

 Please stop

Don't weaponize good

Someone grieving? Watch then talk

 Grief perfectly explained

https://youtube.com/shorts/SzAyAZNwPkQ?si=Lt5WTiQwB92sk5JA

The end of the best

 If there's no one around to admire, celebrate or appreciate a skill you have, it'll start to die overtime.

Don't cheer up, show up

 In hard times, people don't want to be told to look on the bright side. They want to know you're on their side.

Even if you can't help them feel better, you can always help them feel seen.

The best way to support others is not to cheer them up. It's to show up.

Adam Grant

Please or appease?

 Is your motive to please or appease?

It's ok to do things to please, especially if you own it and know it. To do things to appease, you're keeping the peace today at the cost of your peace tomorrow.

Women are right?

 When are men right and women wrong?

If the answer is never or close to, get out of your echo chamber.

Visa versa too

Fear is rude

 Fear is rude

I suggest that fear is rude. Think about it. If someone is communicating with you or engaging with you at a place of concern, anxiety, fear, all of the words and all of the framing of the words is from a place of, of, I think you mean me harm, but I couldn't be bothered or don't have the ability to even understand that you're probably not going to cause a series of events that would actually manifest the kinds of fears I'm worried about and concerned about. There's something there isn't there? This is an incomplete thought. It's just something that I'm thinking about at the moment where there's just something mildly offensive about people know you so little or care about you so little that their fears and concerns are the only thing that matters and that we can't possibly be responsible in figuring things out on ourselves. Does that not sound really rude to you? But it's hidden behind this veneer of I'm only checking and making sure. Well why don't you constantly check and make sure about your car or your house structure or the food that you eat? If you constantly were second guessing those things, people would start to think you're crazy. But for some reason, whether it's some sort of benign situation or activity that just, that can't really go bad, they're actually insulting you because they're saying "my world is so much more important than you that I don't even think you're capable of just getting normal results, I assume you will do bad for me".

Hurt4aDay = 4eva suffering

Hurt my feelings? Hurt them for a day... I'll ruin your life. Ruin it for years, you'll never come back.

That seems fair.

You vs red tape evil

 You change my life, I change yours. What is there name?

Red tape is just rules enforced by people who want to, then the rest feel like they have to accept it and when enough people go along with something, you are caught in the red tape regardless of if it's right. People hide behind this and can change your life while their life is untouched completely. Perhaps the only cutting of the red tape by one person is naming the person who changes your life forever. You change my life, I change yours?

You're so smart until this happens...

Intellectually, some people are very brave until they have skin in the game, then they fall into line. IE Talk big until it might cost them.