You can slow time down... Counterintuitive solution

What can you do today to make the day memorable?

Worrying is a tiring love language

 Dutch watchmaker and writer Corrie Ten Boom on worry:

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

What is truth? There isn't much

 What is truth? There's like this black hole where you can just keep going down and down. 

Best example ever of this https://youtu.be/bgo7rm5Maqg?si=Pu6B9RSA9sXiowzO

Maybe what matters more than the truth is doesn't it matter if it's wrong does it matter if it's right and can you lightly hold a questioned or light truth?

Truth is a means, not an end.

Why don't people get your point of view?

 We hate hate. If you lead with hate, people won't like you. People will never join your side if you hate them.

Cold approach?

 Bring the fun! Be grounded for you, show you are a good time.

https://youtu.be/RXfyC7bysFk?si=0-HxcDpwmvSZqEAx

Your negative passion vibes are hurting

You can't keep condemning the world without also praising the achievements you wish to see. Find the light and celebrate the wins.

https://youtube.com/shorts/yGLy6r_VkAE?si=-uLniCJiR8n3Uoc_

The seeds of creativity are...

 Creativities mother is bravery and father is playfulness.

How everybody stealth attacks you

Plausible deniability is the shield and bureaucracy is the sword.

Toxic good thing

 When does anything become toxic?

The poison is in the dose.

Sugar isn't poisonous, have enough for long enough and it kills the body (fatty liver desease, diabetes).

I'm good and grumpy

 Moral bitterness

Judged against history

"You have to see people in their own time."

As L.P Hartley said in The Go-Between: "The past is a foreign country, they do things differently there".

How to "win" even when you lose.

You can only lose if you're playing to win. If your purpose is the pursuit of truth there is no such thing as losing. There is only growth."

You don't notice the difference BUT

You don't notice the difference but you feel the difference.

Example, bridging expressions in animation.

https://youtube.com/shorts/5uz868YqOn0?si=7cKWozEM9zpoSW-k

I feel, therefore...

Your emotions may be true, but they may not be telling you the truth...

38 at 38

 https://youtu.be/EdTar2tmqfw?si=FsduexB1SbxCDug8

Train your ears extreme

 https://youtu.be/xS4oqe-BRDg?si=zZu1qQYJIaCFu5W6

Audio standards hijacked by videographers

Videographers are deciding new audio standards and they don't even know they're doing it.

Means just ends

 If you don't care that something is a lie because it serves your agenda, you're probably not on the right side of good.

You are bad for being good

When you are punished for following the rules.... You know what to do 😉

Cultish

 Amanda Montell wrote in Cultish that the best way to handle the concern that you might be in a cult isn’t to leave the cult; but to join many

Less dignity more deserving

 Do you feel some people are more deserving of dignity of others?

It's not the lack you think

 And so they disrupt, with the goal of spreading awareness. Yet their attempts to do so are misguided because, for all the issues they protest about, the problem is not a lack of awareness; it’s a lack of solutions. 

You can choose the "hard"

 "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life." - Jerzy Gregorek

Informed simplicity drum

 Yes really. A great example of informed simplicity

https://youtube.com/shorts/i_UmfUERAtI?si=fyZl3BVSrXw0eyZg

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- Air conditioning front & rear

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- Daytime running lamps - LED

- Fog lamps

- Power windows front & rear

- Rear windows - extra dark/privacy

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- Rain sensor (auto wipers)

- Rear wiper/washer

- Road sign recognition

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- Spoiler - rear roof mounted

Are others responsible for your self worth - sometimes!

 How many times a year should you feel like you matter, you're special and you're respected?

Is justice worth this?

 Pursue justice at the expense of love?

Consciousness lags intuition

 Consciousness lags intuition.

It takes time for the thinking part to catch up to the body part.

Parenting: Fear, shame and pain

 Fear, shame and pain.

Think about it, to control kids, parents get angry (fear) use words in ways to dominate even if it's with a smile (shame) often both anger and manipulating words, which create pain that echoes throughout their life. "We spanked their bottoms for a monoment, instead we now spank their minds all day long."

Kids needs are thought of as immediate, tangible, can be put into a list. The actual needs are for the adults to know themselves, understand their failings, own their blessings and curses, and are strong in the world. Kids don't learn much from words, they feel the energy behind the words. What energy is behind your words? Are you afraid? Are you angry? Are you lost? Do you have meaning?

Sort your shit out or get freakishly good at hiding it.

When data is not true

 Numbers and data don't tell you why, they tell you what. You're guessing the why which is not a fact. Only the what is a fact.

Business colonialism

Business colonialism

The act of an outsider coming into a business ecosystem and disrespecting that ecosystem without understanding or even caring about the flow of consequences.

Especially true in creative, subjective industries.

Busy tired?

 You can't overwork. You can be under rested.

Red Herring patterns

 Patterns don't always continue. Shortcuts to conclusions can lead you down wrong paths.

https://youtube.com/shorts/VFbyGEZLMZw?si=HYwU0GB6f8qYIBj-

Wowow conversation starters some more More more

 I like that X, what's the story there?

What's the hidden costs of your success?

What's your tolerance for ambiguity?

"What do most people get wrong about X?"

The horn effect

The horn effect.

High tolerance to nulifiers.

"When your people nullifiers are managed, the horn effect falters" means that by being aware of and managing the factors or actions that lead you to unfairly see others in a negative light, you can prevent the horn effect, where one perceived negative trait overshadows everything else that person is.

The power in the room

You can tell who has the power in a room by how much someone must bite their tongue, and who says all their opinions freely, and would fight back if challenged.

"You're fake!"

GSR

Gossiping, shaming, rallying.

Most lies are convenient, not deception

 There's plenty of intentional misleading stuff out there. I'd argue coming from behind the scenes of news and other media that it's people (by accident or design) making decisions on how to get the job done on time.

News did that with the Titanic https://youtube.com/shorts/Og23XmVTIwQ?si=uC1isRbU3w96YuKa

Give up give in, no.

 Too much pain, give up. Too much pleasure, give in

Wowow conversation starters some more

"...what is the most likely reason you're here that's your fault?"

Examples below but could be anything bad.

Police station

Gaol cell

Homeless

Rich

Imagine you wake up in a hospital. What could have been the most likely reason? Is there anything you can do today to prevent that?

Imagine your partner breaks up with you. What could have been the most likely reason? Is there anything you can do today to prevent that?

Imagine you lose your job. What could have been the most likely reason? Is there anything you can do today to prevent that?

—Luca Dellanna

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And your tongue knows.

Imagine any surface, your tongue knows what that feels like even if you've never licked it.

You're "gap" is someone else's given

 A gap or a given? A given or a gap? Men's life expectancy is lower than women's. A given or a gap?

The most dangerous thought...

 "I feel, therefore, it is."

You're a fake? You're a fair

 Confidence v delusional

How do you know which you are?

Something feels off when it should be easy

 

Hypothesis:

We're good at thinking, we're good at doing. We're not great at doing both at the same time.

Sports you separate the thinking and the doing.

That used to be to an extent for managers and works.

Your words don't teach...

Don't do "it".

Now that I've said don't do it, would you like to do it anyway?

Why not?

Their words or actions teach themselves. They should decide.

We forgot the most important diversity

 Diversity of though.

Coaching shouldn't be a dirty word

Coaching is someone guiding your thinking while you're doing.

Is it hard to do thinking and doing at the same time?

Frustrated things aren't happening?

 Frustration can be a sign of the beginnings of transformation.

When not to bail someone out

If you don't take my advice, if you don't heed my warnings, if you don't accept my help and if you don't be humble in your defeat, don't be surprised if I don't bail you out.

How do you know if it's the right thing to do?

The hard thing to do and the right thing to do are almost always the same thing.

Word bending be gone.

 You tell on yourself based on how you behave.

Simplify the question to know someone "what does their behaviour tell me who they are?"

Taste

 https://seths.blog/2024/03/preference-and-utility/

Interesting experiment

 "Name something good about straight, white, males?"

I think people will reveal who they are based on how they answer that question.

Is people liking you more important than this?

 Would you prefer to be well liked or will respected?

Audio pretzel logic

 Audio wise, whatever you need to do, whatever you listen on, it doesn't matter what you use to make this happen...

"A mix that FEELS the same no matter where you listen".

It will not sound the same, but make it feel the same.

Next argument - watch for this

People who debate from a place of fact, pound the facts.

People who debate from a place of rules pound the rules

People who debate from neither pound the table.

If the facts are on your side, pound on the facts. If the law is on your side, pound on the law. If you don't have either, pound on the table.

Is everything a big deal?

 Know what's big and know what's small

In 70 years you'll be an awful person

Take the word and meaning racism

 Take the word and meaning Sexism

 Take the word and meaning Tansphobe

 Take the word and meaning XYZ

All of them.

Then swap out that for "different to me and I feel that difference".

It all comes back to the same point. It gets uncomfortable when you realise it's the same thing for socially acceptable negative things to say. We're all goddamn prejudice we all feel we are right and we don't like things different to us, it's just some are socially encouraged in our group and some are socially discouraged. You're not enlightened, your a product of your time and your culture. And in 100 years young people will be ashamed of who you are today - because you're different to them in a different time and culture.

When fiction helps fact...

Sometimes a small fiction helps encapsulate a bigger truth

Jealous? Read this.

 "I'm jealous of where you ended up, I'm never jealous of how you get there."

You're jealous of where they ended up. Are you jealous of how they got there? You can't have one without the other. Be careful what you wish for?

One of the great sounds of the world

 Cricket bat echoing around the stadium

1.30 https://youtu.be/qxdAMkMnJuY?si=5ZziyKe5n7P5tZcS

Lots of bat sounds

Layers you will never know

Layers of meaning and taste you will never know. Not because you can't not because you won't, then won't admit it.

https://youtube.com/shorts/WVHw4-62rV4?si=XWqyTzB-SYwngRau

Watch your back, on your toes…

Your selfish today will probably be replaced by somebody else’s selfish tomorrow

Here's why you're stuck

 "Do you want to win arguments or do you want to solve problems?"

If you can't figure out why you're stuck, this is probably why. The only combo that gets you unstuck if both/all sides are trying to solve the problem. We know this as "good faith".

4 laws of happiness

 

Happiness comes from the progress not the result.

Getting things makes us happy, having things doesn't.

Other people aren't responsible for your happiness.

Happiness is an event, not a constant.

DoubleSpeak

 There's 4 kinda of double speak

https://youtu.be/qP07oyFTRXc?si=1zUZRG6-4hvlFwMr

Overrepresentation DEI

 When is too much too much?

Insert cause here. How do you know when you've made it? Or does the goal posts keep getting moved?

"I'll be happy when" ladder.

I guess I imagine one of those old sets of scales with two ends. And The closer you get to equal more neuance is needed.

Don't be fooled by words.

 "Your actions speak louder"

Your words say this, but your actions speak with way more authority and they say this...

Your words don't cancel out the actions

"That's not what you're actions say, your actions say this... Are you saying words matter more than actions?"

Woke the religion

Woke is - by accident or design - religious ideology and radicalism of non religious causes. You either actually believe or you follow to fit in.

I'm uniquely positioned for this hypothesis because I've been immersed in both camps and they're the same behaviours with different lables: Demonstrating belief constantly, one upping and outdoing devotion signals, injecting core beliefs into anything and everything, never taking a break, condemning and shaming others for not being a higher standard, judging for not living up to the ideals because "when I fall short there's a powerful force stopping me, but when you fall short there's no excuse for not overcoming".