Much criticism is unfair.

Quantifiable sins are judged harsher than non quantifiable misdemeanours, but the latter is much more devastating, destructive and deadly - these are very rarely resolved as no one can really grasp what actually is the problem.

With a non quantifiable sin, all you can see is a vague feeling of symptoms but can't diagnose the disease.

It’s too long

 Stop measuring in time and measure in meaning

https://youtu.be/K95MIzDth_A

Science is religion to some

 Science without opposing views isn’t science, its religion.

That’s a clumsy written quote but there’s something there. When defenders of “science” get emotional, erratic and parrot info, isn’t that just another religious zealot believing in something so strongly that any threat to that position being wrong results in fights.

A lot of things are said

 

"The loudest voice isn't the most correct"

Me

Think big

 An exercise I often do when asked to speak to boards of directors: Imagine it’s three years from now and your market cap has trebled. What likely happened to get you there? I find that framing gives board members, who spend a lot of their time being skeptical, worrying about downside, license to think big. And typically, some of the ideas this exercise generates are acquisitions that seem crazy at the time but may prove to be crazy genius.

Scott Galloway

Am I your enemy?

If someone is attaching you, ask a simple question... "Am I your enemy?"

I feel a lot of people communicate like someone is the enemy. This question at least makes the reasonable person think.

How do they respond?

They'll either ignore you - which means it's time to leave - there is nothing here worth staying for

They'll say yes - which means it's time to leave, but thank them for their honesty, you both know where you stand.

They will give a politician answer - which is not really answering. Ask again and again until they give a clear answer like a journalist. Three reason why we may not leave is closure helps us comes to peace.

But what if they say no (I am not your enemy)? What happens next?

Ask to see how they would approach the situation differently if you were an enemy? And/or how they would approach the situation differently if you were a good friend?

The reasonable person would realise their hostility, the unreasonable person would continue to bulldoze through - which means they lied or at least didn't know themselves enough to tell the truth, you are their enemy in that moment and it's time to leave.