Do you feel unloved?

February 14th… the love/hate day of the year… You are either reminded of what you have, or what you don't have.

We all have an internal desire not to just be loved, but also to be allowed to give love… When we miss an ex - we miss the right to love and be loved freely - we don't miss them/what made them become an ex. On this day, more people break up than any other day (according to Facebook). It's also the day that makes more people miserable than perhaps happy. Why? It forces us to be honest and real with ourselves, it makes us reflect on things we've avoided, thoughts we have buried and feelings we deny. If you are feeling lonely today, remember, you do have love in your life… from maybe a pet to maybe a parent - you can give love, you can bless others and I hope you receive love too! don't be afraid, you will find love… but love yourself first, learn how to be kind to yourself, "You only accept the love you think you deserve" so if you don't like yourself very much - you may never let in anyone enough to truly experience love and have trouble giving them love because you feel what you have is not enough… It is… if it's from the heart, from you and you meant it, it's enough! Learn your love language, (Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service) understand what makes you tick so you can help others love you in the way that speaks to you. 

Be brave… be honest… don't settle…. be kind… be you, because you are enough!

Are you sure you want the truth?

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One sentence solution

 A one sentence solution is always shit. Because the time they took to say the sentence is the same amount of time they thought about it.

When someone doesn’t think, they’re accessing “instinct” which means is usually “I don’t see any problems here “ or “I can’t see any hope here”.

Here’s the exception if someone has been thinking about that question their whole life, that one sentence solution is the distilled wisdom of a million other sentences they’ve thought about.

How do you know when to quit your job?

Or to put it another way, how do you know if your souls stay in your job?

Checklist:

Money

Lifestyle

Stepping stones

Good at

Enjoy

Checklist questionnaire below answer with a general yes or general no to each point. (Not all questions in each category might be relevant to your circumstance)

Checklist questionnaire:

Money - Do you feel the money you get for what you do is fair? Does it allow you to be reasonably comfortable? Can you pay your bills?

Lifestyle - Does your work allow you to literally or metaphorically have a life? Do you live in an area you're ok with? Do you feel you can recover from a bad day or bad week at work? Can you switch off when you want to? Can you do personal actives outside of work when you reasonably want to? Are you happy with the time of day you work?

Stepping stones - Do you feel you can progress in your job? Does your job directly or indirectly give you opportunities to grow or get better at something that is valued or important? By being around others in your workplace are you gaining insight you are glad to be absorbing? Are you becoming better through osmosis? Are there paths to moving up or pivoting without much friction?

Good at - Does the job come easy to you? Do others seem to work harder than you but you get the same or better results? Do others in or outside the place of work praise you? Do you feel your job is a part of who you are (even if you don't enjoy it)? Can you teach others? Do you seem to know more than others around you?

Enjoy - Do you love the world your in? Is it easy to get out of bed or at least not painful? Do you do more than you have to, because you feel like it? Do you spend time getting better because it's important to you? Do you recover very very quickly after short rests away from work? Do you forget about bad days or weeks quickly? Would you miss the culture if you were to leave?

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Results!

If you get none or one, it's time to move on immediately. It might be better to leave without having another job lined up. Your fear holds you back but it's so easy to always slide into another terrible job - it won't be worse than what you already have.

Two or three. Start looking for a new job, there's better options out there. Don't put it off.

If you get four or five, don't leave! The grass is not greener somewhere else, at best it'll be different, not better.

And remember, things change, you and your work place. So come back and do the test again.